Bad, bad night - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

Munozchick · 02-02-2005, 05:27 PM

Y'all, Im having an awful night. For the past few days I have been a little depressed. THen, tonight Nic and I went out with a friend of his to drink. I didnt have much to drink. Well, the guy we were out with brought up a sore subject between NIc and I. Nic and I got ****ed at each other. I decided to call my driver to pick me up so that the argument did not escalate. So, Nic comes home and we get into it even more. He grabbed me and slung my neck around. To add to that, my neck as been hurting me the past couple of days to the point that Nic had to go get some strong muscle relaxers for me. Anyway, he slung my neck around, then he slammed me down. He said he wanted a divorced. I said some mean things, he said some mean things. I dont know what to do. I feel like I have no one to talk to here. I dont know if i should accept the fact that he asked for a divorce or what. I certainly dont want one. Y'all...I have hit rock bottom before. I dont feel like this is rock bottom but I do feel like CRAP. I feel like I want to go to bed and not wake up. He keeps making comments like he should get all the sharp knives out and stuff to make me mad. Being a smartass. Anyway, sorry this is long...I just wanted to vent. I dont expect any replies to this, just wanted to get this all off my chest.

Love,
Deanne

kiehn · 02-02-2005, 05:38 PM

Deanne
Im so sorry to hear what you're going thru. This is just my opinion but if my husband
physcally hurt me, we'd either be in counseling or divorced. NO ONE deserves to
be treated like that. I wish I had the wisdom to help you but I dont. I just know
you dont deserve to be treated like that. I sure hope you work things out and find
something to help you depression and get feeling better. Keep posting (((hug to U))))

mudhound · 02-02-2005, 07:21 PM

Drinking and BP just do not mix. One will take over and beat the crap out of the other (BP & booze).
Now, it's not right to strike one's wife in anger. However, if one is provoked to a point one may have to defend one's self. Walking away is one of those defenses.
counseling is the prefered way.

princesspea · 02-02-2005, 09:09 PM

Deanne,

You didn't think we would let this go by with out reply, did you! When I friend is hurting we're here. Thanks for venting!

I agree with both K and Mud. If this is the first time he has hit you, consuling may be the answer! NO ONE deserves to be treated like that. I realize in your situation counseling can be hard to get though.

I think you did the right thing leaving. You both are under a lot of stress just being there. If I were you I'd just keep turning around and walking out of the room.

Now, I divorced a man for violence. It was more than once. He wouldn't go to consuling or take any blame.

What Mud said about drinking and bp is right on the money, I hate to say.

Are you on any meds right now?

I'm sorry this happened to you. Just know your loved.

Love,

Jamie

mary50 · 02-02-2005, 09:15 PM

Get out now....if this is the first time he hurt you physically, he will do it again. This is not Love, it's being a coward.
I hope you open your eyes and get out. Nobody deserves physical or emotional abuse from one's spouse.