spriggy - you are right to question the BP diagnosis. While it's entirely possible that the onset of BP has happened late in life, somehow I doubt it. Meds can really throw a person for a loop, especially if they're to treat a problem that may or may not exist. Example: Buspar made me dizzy and unable to hold my balance after only 2 days on it. My GP prescribed it because he was convinced I had an anxiety disorder, and he describe it as a drug with very mild side effects. Now I only go to p-docs for meds because what to GPs know when it's not their specialty?
A lot of physical illnesses can bring on mental disturbances, either thru body chemistry or the agony of the condition. For your sake, I hope it's not lupus -- you don't need any more bad news to add to the pot.
Considering all that's going on in your life, I'm not surprised you've had anxiety issues. Stress can do a real number on your health -- so it's important that you take care of yourself. You'll be able to take care of your father, husband, child and house with much more ease if you first take care of yourself.
Keep on questioning the quality of your medical care and validity of advice given. If everyone did this, we'd all live healthier lives and inadequate docs would be out of business. As long as people behave like sheep, inadequate docs will have a steady income stream.
My theory - one or more of your docs was not asking enough questions and cross-referencing with diagnoses from other docs. But don't get me started on the American health care system...that's a board unto itself
Thanks for sharing. I hope this helps.