Picali

A very tough one. I think you need to be sure in your mind that you can cope if their reaction is a negative one. Hopefully they would be supportive, learn more about it and try to understand, but if they don't, would you be able to handle it.

One way to 'try' them out is to tell one of them about your friend's experiences - not in detail, and I don't mean giving them her name, but just saying a bit about what she's been through (if you're able to get it into a conversation) - perhaps with the person you think most likely to respond well? You might be able to guage from their comments about her problems how they'd respond to you. My folks all say they understand but won't do anything to help - I find that hard to deal with (I guess because I think if they genuinely understood how hard it is they'd help willingly).

It's a toughie. Cherish your friend and your spouse. Maybe ask a few questions to see how the land lies - then if you think you can cope if the response is poor, try having a chat. They might suprise you, but I think in a situation like this if you go in thinking the worst then things can only get better? I thought my lot would all be wonderful about it and I was very disappointed!