Ex causing a bipolar tailspin - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

*Mood Ring* · 07-27-2005, 07:09 PM

Sorry to come on here and drop this on everyone but my questians are 2 fold here. The man I thought I had rid of is contacting me....I specifically told him there is no way I will be friends with him (this lifetime or next).

Anyways hes causing my stymptoms to reacte...why do our exes feel they can take adavantage of us KNOWING we have bipolar

. He was the one always reminding me to take my damn meds. Sorry im being a ***** but he needs to leave me alone....

Derangea · 07-28-2005, 06:53 AM

To answer your one question, this is one lesson I learned from my "ex".

"why do our exes feel they can take adavantage of us KNOWING we have bipolar?"

Well you just answered your own question there. I dont know how your ex was but mine was manipulative and knew he could take advantage of me knowing I had problems, so it would be easier. And he's contacting me again as well after I said goodbye. And now I've entered another tailspin. I wanna live in a shack in the woods somewhere just to get away from these people. Kinda like the unibomber

Good Grief! · 07-28-2005, 06:04 PM

Ahh...The break up dance...How I hate that! There is one sure fire way to handle the man who doesn't understand 'Go Away' means 'Bugg Off'. Block him. Phones and emails can be set to block a specific person. BLOCK him. If he lives nearby and may knock on the door. Don't open it. Tell him to go away. If he will not leave, let the authorities handle him. It won't take any time at all for him to leve you alone, it only requires one ACTIVE brain cell to get THAT message!

They take advantage because we LET them. We answer the phone, open the email and unlock the door. Be tough. Be strong. Be UNREACHABLE.

Derangea · 07-29-2005, 11:03 AM

But what if you always have an "addiction" to them. Like it feels like going cold turkey from heroin.

Good Grief! · 07-29-2005, 02:37 PM

Ahh...BBF Withdrawls...BBF's get in our blood. Unfortunatly, time and talking to others about MOVING ON are the best cures. It's hard, rips your heart out, grinds your will power to it's knees. BUT it's worth it. A bad boy friend (BBF

is very hard to get outta the sytem. They are sortof like planters warts! My best friend is going through this as we speak (type) its been very hard. But three months after BLOCKING him she is doing much better! She has more GOOD days than bad days now.

If you let yourself heal you will. But you cannot heal if he has access to you.