I have been very lucky in that my husband used to work in a field that brought him in contact w/ people with bipolar and he had to be educated about symptoms etc. On the same note though - he even said to me the other day "it is all you ever talk about - I am sick of it!" ( I am newly diagnosed and am obsessed with learning and "figuring it out") It is so funny because I talk about it about 1% of how much I think about it *L*
I think what happens with a lot of men (not all - but a lot) is when they are overwhelmed, and they don't know how to handle something - they just shut down and block out what they don't like. He may very well not read things because he is much more comfortable not knowing what the symptoms are. It is more comfortable to think you can deal with this and it is a choice - then to see that this is an actual "problem" that is going to need some serious attention. The possible implications of this disease can be very very scary - possibly not being able to hold down gainful employment, that your children may inherit the disease, that you may be financially irresponsible etc.....think about how scarey that could be for someone to come to terms with. I guess what I am saying is that he may not be a bunghole - he just may be scared.....
I guess if I had the financial means I would get a therapist and talk to her/him - and then work towards an intervention of sorts - where he could hear what bipolar is - really hear what you need - and then express his fears/concerns and maybe anger. If that isn't an option then arrange a "date night" and make sure you are somewhere you can talk and he doesn't have TV
and tell him what you need him to know - what you need him to do - maybe what you think he may be feeling - and then ask him to share what his fears are and what he needs. You may even suggest if he doesn't feel safe talking to you - he can come here and talk to other people about his fears and concerns in private. He may not be talking to you about it because he doesn't want to hurt you.
I don't know if this will work - but it can't hurt can it?
I know that when I am feeling emotionally disconnected and unsupported by my husband - I am so much more likely to get obsessed about him cheating on me. Whatever you decide to do or however you are feeling - remember that this is a safe place for you...and that you are definitely not alone in your fear/pain.
I'll be thinking of you.