Do you really think he will listen to us?
I also am a very high functioning Bipolar - I work, have a really good marriage, a supportive family and Very excellent results with Lithium alone.
But. Underneath my wonderful high functioning exterior there is still an over the top manic, catatonic depressive, mentally ill person who has one and only one reason for being a fairly balanced member of society.
If after 20 years of stability I went off my meds I would revert back within 6 months to cycling high to low like I did before.
What people like your husband don't know, or choose not to understand, if that our BEHAVIOR is a symptom of the disorder. The disorder is in our brains instead of our pancreas and therefore our symptoms are BEHAVIORAL or attached to our MOODS.
Instead of our blood sugar rising as a diabetic's would, we have highs and lows.
Nothing to do with our intellect or "choices".
Can a diabetic control their blood sugar by just "snapping out of it"?
I am wondering if there is more to your husband's unhappiness... Certainly he's read something about Bipolar Disorder by now that explains the chemical imbalance?
It's almost like he's singling your disorder out to pin ALL of the bad things on.
It ALWAYS takes two.
And luckily there are LOTS more than two here for support. I'm just not sure that anything we say is going to change his behavior (which by the way is not caused by being bipolar so I wonder where its coming from....)