Hello all, I haven't been here since May '05. I posted this thread:
about my situation at the time with my ex-gf who is bipolar. Since then, as of September 2005 she called me after 8 months! and we have been hanging out and talking since then, up until this past Tuesday that is
*sorry for the length but it really helps set the situation.
Basically she has seemed like her normal self since Sept., still get her moodswings and become angry or depressed about nothing but it wasn't anything major, just lots of stress over money she owed and things she had to pay for. Now a little over a week ago (last saturday 2/25) she started to seem much happier, just her mood in general seemed to be up more so then most of the 5 months we had been hanging out again.
She works late and the next day she got home unusually late for a work night and talked to me online, she is NORMALLY very tired afterwork and goes home. Instead she hung out with a few GFs from her work til 5am. Next day same thing only 630am this time. During this I am talking to her like normal even that late at night on the phone but I can tell something is different, she has WAY too much energy and keeps me on the phone til almost 8am. I see her Tuesday and WOW, she is off the walls goofy, laughing uncontrollably, just non-stop everything. Fast questions etc.. and just goofy behavior. Her eyes just look like shiny or glazed over, its just visible when looking at her that something is different. Well later that night, same scenario she doesnt get home to talk to me online til 6am, talks to me on the phone til almost 8 again, we are usually both asleep no later then 3. I of course am liking this to a point, the talking is great but I realize its unusual.
Then comes wed., long workday for her yet she didnt come home til 7am this time, again on the phone with her til 830am. The convo didnt go as well this time, she started to get mad at me since I seemed upset about some guy she met, beyond that she was already in a weird mood said she felt a low coming on if we kept on talking about the guy thing. (We aren't together but recently discussed us and were taking it slow, and if she wanted to get into a relationship it would be with me etc... but right now she has far too much to do and work 6 DAYS A WEEK.) The importance of that is I was worried about her and this guy not us, he is a paranormalist that messes with minds and all that weird stuff that a person in her condition DOES NOT need. So she proceeds to tell me there is something weird about him, creepy but she cant figure out what draws her to him. I then mention she seems different all the sudden the past few days and she said she was the following "weird, psychotic, I need help." She then says with a bit of a laugh "i have different personalities". It was just weird to hear these things come out of her mouth, she must have mumbled something about being psychotic 3 times. She also explained she is "getting along with strangers right now" meaning people from work and people she just met that she wouldnt normally hang out with or have anything in common with. Said she feels mad towards close people and family members.
Well we ended that convo on a ok note and she wasnt too upset at me. We talked the next several days but she wasnt herself and didnt say much. Said she didnt want to hang out just yet because she "doesnt want to get angry at me right now". Last time we were together and we had a bad argument she got so angry it caused her to not talk to me for 8 months, so this could be a good move although it sucks.
So that brings me to now, we are talking fine for the most part, just more online then phone. But here is where it gets even messier, that paranormalist guy, well she has seen him everyday for the past 7 days and relationship seems to have started on thursday. Ok, atleast 3 of these days she was supposed to work and she HAS to work, well she missed ALL her work days since meeting him. They are already planning a trip to vegas and she has brought him to meet her family etc... I mean ALL this stuff happened in a couple days, and the week prior she explained how she has no time for anyone becasue of her obligations, and she has been that way for atleast 8 months.
*EDIT: Also something I have read is when manic lots of goals get started then incompleted. Well she wanted to start modeling and I took pictures of her on Tuesday, its all she was talking about in the week prior. Well now she completely dropped that as of this past week when she got weird, and this was HUGE to her has her current job makes her miserable. Night and Day.
- bouncing off the walls with energy
- sleeps 1-3 hours a night (week before this happened slept a normal 7-9)
- up til 7 or 8am
- ditched work repeatedly at a time she needs to work almost everyday
- went shopping the other day when she shouldnt be spending
- hasnt been eating really
- with someone who normally isnt her type
- says she is getting along with people she doesnt normally ever hang out with
- feels a bit mad towards those close to her like family members etc.. for no reason
- is in this weird OVERNIGHT relationship and seems to want to see the world with him
- admits she is being "nice" right now
- started something she wanted for a longtime and dropped interest right after the mood change
So that is that, it seems obvisous, this is round 2 for me so its not as hard, plus we werent officially together. But it still hurts to have that person back in your life then see them change OVERNIGHT and do all the things they said they dont or wouldnt do. As of the the prior week she was still totally herself, the way she was since I started seeing her again in September. Any insight on this would be great, also she is not on meds, stopped them Dec. 2004.
Thanks and again SORRY FOR THE LENGTH!