Hi everyone, I just wanted a place where we can share the positive things about being bipolar.
I've found it helpful to hear about everyone's symptoms. I've been learning so much. But...
I want to talk about the positive things we get because we're BIPD. For instance, I'm a writer. I don't know where it comes from or why I do it, but I started about the same time the emotional problems started - about six or seven. When I was upset I would hide in the closet and write a poem. Or write a monologue and perform it in my basement for my dolls. I realize now that it was self prescribed therapy and it actually did me a lot of good. And now I've ben writing for over 30 years and it is my rock. I've changed almost everything about myself at least once (a positive and negative of BIPD!) sometimes once a year. But I've always been a writer. I even do my best work just after a crisis. The bigger the crisis, the better the work.
I remember when I was in sixth grade, a tornado hit the town I lived in. I was terrified. My parents were on the porch watching it! I couldn't believe it. I tried to call my friend Natalie, but I must have misdialed because I heard a strange woman, lots of noise and then dead silence.
I fled to the closet where I wrote a poem. The tornado hit a mile from the house and was one of the biggest in history until then.
I still have that poem. And even at 11 or 12, I found a way to cope with the chaotic universe and find the calm in the storm. To this day, I am cool as a cucumber in a crisis. (as long as it's not my own, of course!)
I have many more, but I want to hear from people ways that BIPD makes us special.
hmmmm..... this is a hard one. I don't know if it's because of my bipolar or just me, but even though I'm a shy person, sometimes I can ramble on and on great stories and stuff to people and they actually ask for more. Like when I worked (recently as two months ago) my co-workers would ask me for more stories about my childhood ( I grew up in such a screwed up schizophrenic-mom household, there were plenty of stories to tell).
Of course, in my depressed states, when I could actually drag myself in to work, everyone could sense my mood and would stay away from me. So I guess the advantages are my stories and quirkiness when I'm not depressed (of course).
Yea! I say that's definately an advantage. People with BPD tend to be able to talk to anyone (when they're not depressed, of course)
That's a good one. I'm actually very outgoing or very shy, depending on my mental state. But in any mood, I'm keenly perceprive about people. I sometimes think I'm empathic, because I seem to understand people intuitively.
Come on everyone. For every bad thing about it there is an equal and opposite blessing.
For instance, I have had such a torturous time coping with the out of control emotions that I am very helpful to others who are questioning their own actions. I have developed a very rational, logical mind because I need it to figure out the world.
Peoples strengths are also their weaknesses. I want to know what special skills people have. Even if you don't think they're part of the BPD. We tend to be very creative and talented people. If you look, I bet you'll all find something spectacular you didn't even know was a result of BPD.
This sounds really strange, but if you were a Star Trek fan and remember the Betazoid Deanna Troi who had empathic abilities you are describing my "gift".
(And no, I DON'T look like her one bit!!!)
I am almost uncanny at reading other peoples emotions, feelings, inner self.
They can be smiling & saying "fine" & I'll know otherwise.
I'll have a deep instinctive sense to avoid certain people & be best of friends with people who are snarly on the outside.
I also developed a real psychic link to my first real boyfriend. I knew when there were problems after we broke up, I could show up at the most needed times, it was the most oddly metaphysical link I've ever had in my entire life.
I do believe that my manias (which were intensely spiritual for the most part) left me with a real sensitivity.
My ex-boyfriend died a couple years ago when he was 48. It worries me that I haven't sensed his spirit since that day...
So, although they aren't normal gifts like singing or painting... they are gifts of mine...
It's so great to hear that from you.
I think it is very common for BPD's to be partially Betazoid. We have that extreme sensitivity of emotion that hinders us a lot but it also helps us understand other people and recognize dangers and rewards others might not see.
Thanks Ruth! I was beginning to think this thread was going to die and I really want to focus on these things!
Maybe this really isn't and advantage, but I kind of think so... I am more able to connect with younger children. When I am in a mania I am able to go go go on the play ground or park and play and help them come up with fun games to play. Then when I am depressed I am able to talk with the "loner" child and get them to not feel so alone. Maybe it isn't the greatest one, but for me it is, becuase my whole life revolves around helping children learn to grow and be happy about it. (I work in a preschool)!!
Now we're getting somewhere.
I think that extreme sensitivity can draw us to pople who are feeling extreme emotions and children live there all the time.
I love that you even found an advantage of being depressed. The loner child needs someone, too!!!
Don't be afraid to see your blessings!
Thanks CBizz, that one's fantastic!
I am not Bipolar, but I loved this thread. My Aunt is Bipolar, and she is one of the most amazing people I know. I have never known her not medicated (she has been on Lithium for 25 years), but she talks a lot about her problems before she was diagnosed. My aunt is a writer like the first poster. She believes that her Bipolar makes her highly creative. She is also one of the most intuitive people I know. She is also great at analyzing a situation from many different perspectives. I am not sure how these last two relate to Bipolar, but I love how this thread is asking to look at the brighter side of life.
I think if we keep this thread going, we can start to see that we have things in common besides the bad symptoms. These things about us that we take for granted are the gifts we get. Like blind people who's other senses are heightened.
I've been thinking lately that I am a little psychic. I have always suspected, because I have feelings and get images that turn out to be true and I have dreams that tell me things I shouldn't know, that turn out to be right.
I'm certain that this is the BPD. Even if I can't read peoples minds, I am somehow tuned in to them n a deeper level.
I have some good things to say about my sweetheart who is BP. I told him the other night that I didn't think it was a bad thing that he is BP. (since this is a new journey for us) I said that most of the genius people in this world artists/musicians where BP or had another form of mental illness. Even on my sweethearts worst day he always checks to make sure I am alright. Very giving and very helpful to everyone he meets. He is amazing with music. He can create and find music that melts my heart like butter. He is a hopeless romantic and cooks better than I could ever dream of. He reads me like a book. I am learning to hold on to those moments because that's what life is about. Bipolar = creativity
My fiancee, who I am just learning he is BP is the MOST incredible painter. He has been painting his whole life and is very talented. He can draw, sketch or paint the most beautiful things in just moments. I'm now seeing that it's also how he take out alot of his emotions, because of course besides beautiful paintings he also has many sad and angry ones. It's a great way to express how he feels.
I love this!
Everything you two say is so true.
I really like bipolar=creativity. I think we have something there.
What a wonderful person you are to see all his strengths. You give me hope that someday I will also find someone who appreciates me for my strengths and my weaknesses and sees how the two are inseparable.
Thank you all for keeping this thread alive.
My next installment of advantages of BPD is called
Change is my middle name
Change is difficult for everyone. They say things like moving, changing jobs and breaking up with partners cause extreme stress in most people.
Not me. Well, breaking up is hard to do and does cause me extreme stress, but I usually get over it much faster than my partners, even though they always end it)
Change is so comfortable for me that I feel like I've had a hundred lives. And I wouldn't mind a hundred more.
keep looking for that silver lining!!
Hey L.t.b. I Was Jus Dropping By To Say Thank You I Do Read All Of Your Replies And Thay Are All Immensly Helpful I Now Anticipate A Re: From You B/c You Have Wonderful Insight And Continue To Not Make Me Feel As If I Am Whinning About My Wife And Our Problems. As I Find That Is Is Hard To Discuss It Anywhere Else But Here. Everyone Else Including My Guys Used To Say Wow That Embarrasing About Some Of The Things That She Says To Me. But I Find Comfort And Confedentiality Here I Really Appreciate Your Words.
But A Advantage To Bpd I Would Have To Say............is When My Wife's Moods Change To The Good Cycle She Is Sweetest Person That I Know
I'm really glad you find comfort here. And I'm especially glad I can help give you insight.
I lost my last bf, who I cared about VERY deeply, because he couldn't examine my behavior in regards to my symptoms at all. Instead of talking to me or trying to do what you're doing here, he talked to his friends who convinced him I was crazy. And when one of them was finally a woman... well he's with her now.
I can't tell you how many men I've lost because of BPD, most of them. And it is a deep wound I feel I'll never heal. Not only have I hurt people I love and pushed them away but the anger they feel in response causes them to lash back at me with pent up frustration. My last bf beat me up after he moved in with his new girl because I wanted him to take his cats out of my apartment! After saying to me, "See what you made me do, see what you mad me do?" He called the police on himself and said, "I hit my girlfriend, she's bipolar."
I can't tell you how much I loved this man and how hard I tried to never let him see the symptoms. But it is impossible to fight with pure force of will. I am very impressed with your dedication and understanding. She is lucky to have you.
Yep. Because we fight so hard not to lose our temper, we tend to be VERY sensitive to the needs of others and very generous and sweet. Everything is equal and as bad as the temper is, the sweetness is just as extreme.