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Old 06-06-2006, 04:57 PM   #1
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What about the work life after beeing diagnosed

I have been depressed for almost 5 months now. Sometimes I feel like I'll never be old myself again. Most of the time I am home alone with my children who are young. I feel very bored with them. The places we go are very limited. My husband comes home at night that relieves me a little. Most of the day I am out of my mind what to do and how to occupy myself anf the kids. I don't enjoy any hobbies. I don't enjoy life that much yet. It took me a while to reorient the normal life after going all the way down with depression. Before I used work full time and go to school. It seems like that was the only thing to occupy myself. I have fear of going back to work. I am not ready either. I still have problems with being sleepy excessively. Although wellbutrin has helped me a great deal, I am still very slow. I have a very low self esteem about myself. I feel like if I go back to work, I'll fail. I feel like no one would hire me in this condition. I am a total wreck myself. I am trying hard to pull myself together, but it is not easy. What are your experiences after being diagnosed with an illness like this and going back to work life again. How long is it going to take me to get over this depression phase. Please write your experiencess. Especially about self esteem and going back to work issues.

 
Old 06-06-2006, 08:53 PM   #2
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Re: What about the work life after beeing diagnosed

Here some things that might help.
1. Bipolar illness is different for everyone.
2. The best thing you can do for yourself and be your own best friend, you've suffered a significant illness, be kind to yourself, encourage yourself.
3. Some Bipolar poeple return to work and do fine, some poeple test the waters by doing some local volunteer wook which can also build your self esteem.
4. Treat yourself, get a babysitter and go to the movies, go shopping, go for a long walk, go visit a friend, or just go to the park lay out your blanket read, take a nap, etc. etc.
Hang in there, sometimes it seems like nothing changes, then one day you wake up and realize it had been changing all along and all of sudden things seem brighter. K

 
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Old 06-06-2006, 11:56 PM   #3
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hi there,
firstly i think the advice Rani has given you is great and you should try some of the ideas.
Ive always personally struggled with work and building any sort of career etc for myself. I dropped out of school at 14 and since then ive not managed to make any sort of job last, i like you, fear work, and i only feel secure when im not having the pressure of having to have a job, but then at the same time i feel like a failure for not having one. I almost feel "scared" like when a child is scared about going into school, thats the only way i can describe it. But throughout the periods i have worked ive coped fine and even enjoyed some of the jobs and been successful, even being promoted to a management position with one. But obviously as bipolar is about swings of mood and inconsistancy with behaviour, its never lasted long and ive ended up quitting all the jobs ive had. im not telling you any of this to make you feel more bleak about it all, just to make you realise that you're not alone.
an important thing to remember is that we do have an illness, and if we were suffering with a physical illness nobody would question our inability to work. im signed off work by my doctor at the moment who does not consider me well enough to be able to work at the moment. I get fed up with people just thinking im lazy because i look fine and they want to know why im not working. Mental illness is just as serious as a physical illness if not more so in some cases, but there are still so many ignorant and misinformed people out there! On top of that our meds can often make us feel physically ill especially when we first go on them, im constantly tired and lethargic at the moment and often feel sick and dizzy.
Ive only been correctly diagnosed with bipolar last month after being wrongly treated for just depression for years and im now hoping with the correct medication i can build up to getting back to work at some point in the future.It still feels very frightening at the moment but im sure i will get there eventually.Ive spoken to so many lovely people on here whohave managed to lead a normal and successful life after getting the correct diagnosis and adjusting to the right treatment for their bipolar, and they inspire me and give me hope for my own future.
Just dont push yourself, its important to feel comfortable and ready.i think Rani's idea about voluntary work is great, my dad is also bipolar and took early retirement when he first became ill but he has done a lot of voluntary work when feeling well enough and it has really helped him.
hang in there, you're not alone, and there is always hope. Fallen

 
Old 06-07-2006, 10:51 AM   #4
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Semi: as I read about your dilema, I had an idea.

When I was home, I worked for the County; I had a job as a substitute instructional assistant. This job was on call only, and one day at a time.

A computer calls you each day and announces what job is available, location and amount of hours. You either accept it or decline it. This way you can work around your family obligations, and you won't feel the pressure of having to be there.

You would help a teacher taking care of children. I signed up for preschool, nursery, community schools and alternative education. So I have a nice wide range of options.

Maybe this would be good for you, you would just take it one day at a time, and you would not have an "boss". The teachers really appreciate the help they get, and most are very nice.

If you want to look into it, you need to look for your County Office of Education and check on what the requirements are in your county.

You see, I feel trapped when I have a regular job, this kind of job gives me options, variety and flexibility.

Just had to put my 2 cents in.
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Old 06-07-2006, 04:52 PM   #5
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Thank you guys for your inputs. It has been very helpfull. My doctor andpsychologist told me that I could do whatever I wanted to do once I have healed. The thing is I am not healed yet and my depression lasted longer than expected. According to them I would be healed by now. Talking with you tells me the real side of the story. May be they were just trying to encourage me instead of scaring me. I am a nurse and i have worked as a nurse for 15 years. It is so hard for me to move into a different career. In the past I have worked as a clinical research nurse and most recently clinical only. Research was much less stressful for me. It depends on the institution of course. I am worried if I'll be ever work as a nurse in the future again. My husband doesn't think I am ready for work yet. I think I can handle a light work. I need to check wit my doctor what his opinion is. Since my depression has lasted longer. How long more I am going to be depressed like this. Does it last years sometimes. If it does how many more years. Even with the kids at home I get very bored. I don't have much to occupy me or them. They watch TV most of the time and I take them to play places and pool, but you can only go to the same place so much in a week. I know this is due to my depression, I don't want to do anything. Nothing relaxes me. I don't like reading, watching TV or do my hobbies I have always planned to do when I am retired. Such as painting or drawing. This is wahta is killing me. I only get rlexation by doing things manually and forgetting myself. Sometimes house chores are relaxing for me, it gives me something to do. I am torn between the time I have in my hand and not wanting to do anything. I feel sleepy most of the time. This is another reason perhaps why I don't like to do anything. My doctor put me on wellbutrin XL. And it did help some. My insurance company is not paying for it because there is a generic for wellbutrin, but it is not as good as the XL. On top of everything I have to deal with this. Doe the depression ever get better or I will feel like this most of the time? Neither me nor my husband has any family in town. Most of the time I feel the need talking to or being with with a family. Talking on the phone is not the same. Writing on this board relaxes me some what. I guess it does reminds me my school days.

 
Old 06-07-2006, 05:28 PM   #6
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I was in a deep depression, exhausted, unable to work, unable to get out of bed most of the day, unsafe driving because I was so tired. I cried for hours every day. I thought it would NEVER end! My pdoc and therapist, friends and family kept encouraging me to hang in there every day. Each day felt like eternity! I was trying to care for 3 kids too. Luckily they are in school for part of the day. I was totally suicial. But the good news is that it finally lifted! After trying about 12 different meds. and a full year of suffering, I finally feel ok. I don't feel great, don't have tons of energy like I used to, and am still trying to figure out what is "normal", but I don't sleep in the day or cry anymore. It feels like a miracle. I honestly didn't think I would make it for months and months. My pdoc told me that the longest depression he's ever seen, and he's been in practice 30 years, is 1 1/2 years. He says the average is around 6 months. Ask your doctor what he has experienced. Also BE VERY PROACTIVE about trying different meds until you find the right combination. Everybody is different. I wish you the best and certainly empathize with your situation. I hope you don't have to live one day longer than necessary like this!

 
Old 06-10-2006, 08:59 PM   #7
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What types of careers or jobs do people have on this site? How long have you been able to hold a job and have you been able to be a success and make a significant amount of money in salary and/or bonus? What have been the main stumbling blocks to success if any? I assume nobody from your work knows your diagnosis?!

 
Old 06-10-2006, 09:40 PM   #8
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I have a bachelors in social work but have never worked in the field they always want someone with paid experience gradrauated from the university of detroit mercy in 95. The longest I have worked is about 2 1/2 yr 97 to jan of 2000. now on ssdi have worked on and off Dr. wants me to work says I'm to intellegent. I guess there are a lot of stummbling blocks for me. 1 I kind of don't believe I can do soicial work. (my friends Dr. teripist and many others think I can) 2. No paid experience all the job want paid experience at least 2 years. 3. I have no recient experience my reume is old from collage. 4. can't afford $40.00 licsecne fee.

 
Old 06-13-2006, 04:34 PM   #9
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I think the important thing to remember is that you can't count on making the big bucks if you have bipolar disorder.
The truth is that we just can't handle stress without risking our mental and our physical health.
The most stressful job I ever had was Plan Document Specialist in an insurance company, (I was also in fast food, a trucking company, a bank teller) but my job as a general office clerk at a funeral home is absolutely the most satisfying.
I don't care about the money, I do have insurance.
A Career just doesn't seem to be in the cards for me, and I guess that its ok with me..

 
Old 06-14-2006, 02:58 PM   #10
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Thanks for your response Ruth. Does anyone else have career experience they could share?

 
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