is bipolar rage selective - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

marshmallow · 07-11-2006, 06:07 AM

I was wondering if someone with bipolar can be selective with their rage. What I mean is can it mostly be towards the spouse or family? My sister said it is not bipolar if they only rage at the spouse or family but I don't think that is true. I think my husband is bp and I am the one he rages at. His rages seem to be if he feels threatened or doubted in any way by me. He goes bonkers and rages and destroys property. Anyone have any thoughts?

Very Green · 07-11-2006, 06:25 AM

Hi there. Yes, they can definately be selective. No-one seems to notice my partner has bipolar at work, but boy are the symptoms apparent at home! He will also rage at people he doesn't know, but only with a glimmer of an issue, never without some ghost of a reason. However, he would never do it to friends. Go figure.

TTFN

marshmallow · 07-11-2006, 07:53 AM

It is really hard to figure it out and confusing to the point you wonder what your doing wrong. At this point we are living separately due to the violence. No meds are taken because he says I am the one that needs help not him. Funny thing is I am not the one raging, screaming and putting holes in the wall plus many other things. I have not called him names but he has called me many choice ones. Really discouraging. Thank you for your reply.

Very Green · 07-11-2006, 08:29 AM

I know exactly what you mean. Everything (including the holes in the walls, but thats not happened for a while now!) sounds like my partner. The only difference is he knows it is him, but still won't take meds!
Aint life great.

TTFN

Kymberlee · 07-11-2006, 09:11 AM

Hey,there! Yes, my husband is the same way. He can rage one min.(at me) and then the next nice as pie to a stranger. He's like Dr. Jeckle&Mr. Hyde! That's bipolar! And ALL his 'problems' are MY fault. He told me that the other day and I said,"Oh, I know it!! Everything's MY fault!!!" That shut him up. He's ready for me to verbally fight with him. He was really ****ed when I said that! LOL

He has yet to take the new med. his Doc gave him last week. Who knows if he'll ever try it!?