Hi Julie
I am sorry to hear that you are having a rough time right now. It is scary to hear things from a pdoc, like when they say they want to take one off of certain meds and a person isn't ready to do so. That is very easy relate to, and my heart goes out to you a bundle. ((hugs))
My meds include: Topamax (mood stabilizer), Abilify (antispychotic), Wellbutrin XL (antidepressant), and Buspar (anxiety). So far, things have faired quite well for me with this combo mix. However, with each individual every drug effects a person differently. Wellbutrin is an antidepressant that has low side effects and has been quite effective for me. That is just my case scenario.
I've tried the SSRI's and they were horrible for me. They all caused me to go manic. That was my experience with them. That was when I only took an antidepressant; period and the doctors didn't know I was bipolar either. Now I'm so much better off.
If you feel that you are leary of the situation you are in then tell the pdoc, and tell him that you want to try a new antidepressant before throwing in the towel completely with them. It is your life and mental state; not theirs.
Take care Julie. You have a terrific name.
Hugs
Coffeegirl