Hi....I am glad you came to vent. Bipolar often involves your experiencing things that you can or cannot control. And often what is perceived by the one with the disorder and those who are around him/her are perceived differently.
One thing I notice in what you have shared is that things were going well until you had a few drinks which for the most part IS under your control as to whether or not you can handle that. WE all know that other external factors will affect how the meds that are essential to stability are working whether it be in the form of stress, poor diet, lack of proper sleep AND/OR use of alcohol and/or drugs. All of these factors are within your control....so if you have noticed that a few drinks affects your moods in such a way that it causes a row between you and a loved one the best thing you can do is avoid doing that again. The meds will only help so much leaving the rest up to you. Avoiding situations and things that will trigger mood changes is importaant and perhaps not having those few drinks next time even though you think you are okay to have them may be something you CAN do to prevent the things that make it difficult for your hubby, family or friends to deal with. By learning what you can do to control your moods is just as important as taking your meds.
I hope that you don't think that I am being too harsh but it is something I see that perhaps may help you to see a way to prevent such unpleasantries between you and hubby.
(((HUGS))) ~ Goody