don't ask don't get upset - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

scullyboy · 11-06-2006, 05:41 PM

Why is it that people will post threds asking for suggestions, ideas, comments etc

When they get a reply they get angry or upset,
first off ask about somthing that affects you , be polite ,honest ,and open.
That way you won't be offended if you don't hear what you want to hear

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What you will find is opinion that is open ,honest and come's from the heart ,
And may I say thanks to all who have made comments or taken comments from me...? I have allways gained some insight from their input wether good or bad ?.

Reguards to all scullyboy (Steve )

mudhound · 11-06-2006, 06:55 PM

Very good post. I wonder about this too. Why ask if your going to refuse to even have an open mind.
There are good items we all can glean from one another.

scullyboy · 11-07-2006, 05:34 AM

I agree with you entirly , it seems that the gimmie gimmie attitude has hit the boards sometimes....?
If your mind is closed so is your response...comon people reach out, help is there if you wan't it do you...?

Very Green · 11-07-2006, 05:45 AM

Before i start this post, i would like to say i am not disagreeing at all with what you have both said!

I am simply wondering if sometimes the reason people get upset at replies, opinions etc, is because they are truly in despair, a moment that seems worse than the rest, and all they seek is reassurance and hope that they are right/or there is a magic solution etc. Sometimes hearing other opinions or comments is too much, if it was not what they were hoping for at the time. When the veil of deep despair starts to lift, they may start considering the other opinions/comments, and see them for the attempt at help/anwers, that they are?

Just a thought. Quite liked the vein of this thread

TTFN

jgr01 · 11-07-2006, 05:53 AM

I agree with Very Green and the others. I know that many times on this journey I have sought answers and got the exact one I didn't want. I would like to think however that I haven't taken it out on the messenger; well not on this board anyway - I've had a few heated discussions with docs along the way though! I find this journey extremely frustrating at times; especially the whole change your life (style) thing. Which is what I am currently undertaking.