bi polar teen need someone to talk to - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

BlveInMe89 · 11-10-2006, 09:58 PM

im 17 and i have bi polar, and depression. I have been hospitalized three times so far, and i have a wonderful boyfriend who has stuck by me through it all. its just sometimes hard to control my moods and he sometimes thinks i use my bipolar as an excuse.. is this happening to anyone else??

kiehn · 11-10-2006, 10:40 PM

Hi
I believe in you, you must be a very strong person, being a teen is hard enough then adding bipolar to it, takes someone strong to deal with. What you experiencing with the BF is very normal even if you werent bipolar we have our moody times. lol Ive learned because my husband will never be
bipolar he doesnt alway understand so I try my best not to get upset
with him but othertimes.... lol
I have a 22 yr old daugher that is also bipolar and her teens were hard for her too we used to fight a lot until she found the right med combo. That was only because she felt so bad inside it came out in anger. Even after seh found the right medicines it took her awhile for her to get her life the way she wanted it. Things will get better little by little you'll see improvements, the right med combonation can make a big difference and the rest is growing, learning and during these tuff years. You're a strong young lady hang in there I believe in you.

There are a lot different age groups on this board so I hope some of the others will offer you some of their support. Feel free to ask any questions here. Sending you a warm hug, and butterflywishes, Sue

BlveInMe89 · 11-11-2006, 04:47 PM

thankyou khien.. that was really helpful advice

LAP18 · 11-11-2006, 04:51 PM

I am a mom of a 17 year bipolar daughter. i am not bipolar but I am a victim of the illness. I love my daughter more than anyhting else in this world. right now, I am crying becuase she and I just had a fight. can you help me understand what is going on in her head? Please help me. I don't know how else to help her. I think she is mean and doesn't care about anyone else except for herself. I have done a lot of reading but the bottom line is, I feel so incompetent. I am so much pain.

Can I ask you? If you could have one wish... what would you wish your parents would do for you?

Blveinme89,please tell me what I need to do.

Laura

BlveInMe89 · 11-11-2006, 08:53 PM

for me when my mom and i get into a fight i do the same thing with out thinking i fly off the handle and will say very cruel and hurtful things to her. I dont think anything of it when i am saying it. it doesnt sound mean or cruel. AFTER i say it is when i realize that what i just said was awful and i am so ashamed for saynig it. for me with bi polar i dont think about what i say when i get so enraged. its after i say it that im like what did i just say. sometimes i dont even remember what i said. you remind me of my mother. she gets very upset to. Just because ur daughter has bi polar though doesnt mean u should cut her any breaks. treat her as if she didnt have it within reason. when she gives u an attitude still tell her she is out of line. my mom just takes deep breaths, and tells me to get out of her face of course i will say something smart and i will walk away. but after i walk away i realize what i did. another thing dont egg her on. ignore her when she is having a fit. it wont get to u as much. about the wish thing. we just wish for are parents to be understanding. understand that we have a disorder that is sometimes hard to control. dont let her take advantage of it though. especially if she is medicated. i bet ur doing a great job mom

keep up the good work..

ur friend blveinme89