kiehn

Hi Marshmellow
Your statement is very true. Part of the problem is not everyone has all the same symptoms. For example I read bipolar's lie a lot. My reaction was NO WAY. Then I thought about other family members that were bipolar and some of them lied terribly. I always thought they just had a problem with lying now I realize it can be part of the illness. Maybe the doctor wasnt very educated becasue there are several different types of bipolars, some may only have a manic state once or twice there whole life but experience depression constantly. Some cycle many times a day, a week, a month, or years. So it would depend on your husbands cycling. I have wondered many times, doctors and counselors are evaluating behavior based on normal human nature. If they always see someone that's upbeat and one day them come in screaming ranting and raving they say what the heck is wrong with you when they should know. My last counselor was praising me one minute for my behavior and a couple months later when I cycled down berated me in her actions and behavior like she took it personal. That's when I realized they dont always fully understand. Myself Ive often thought maybe I would be better off living on my own because my moods, actions and behaviors affect the whole house, which lays even more guilt on me. I will tell you before I found this board I was so alone. I constantly wished I would die.
If you could get your husband to just read some of the board here. Helping each other here is how we learn to find tools to deal with this disorder.
Butterfly wishes to you, Sue