Bipolar Boyfriend - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

Viktorious · 12-20-2006, 01:57 PM

My daughter has been involved with a boy for the last four years that we are convinced is bipolar. She has since been diagnosed with severe situational depression. He seems to be on one hand, crazy about her, caring, sweet and wonderful part of the time,but he also turns into the worst unfeeling, apathetic,and cruel person you could meet. The back and forth has taken a toll on her and myself I might add. Is it usual for someone with this illness to be so cruel and hateful to someone that I know he cares about?
Help!
Viktorious

Strawberry.hill · 12-20-2006, 02:37 PM

I suppose so. I am not like that, but my ex was kind of like that. He would appear to other people as kind and polite, a gentleman. But when alone with me, (of course not all the time) he would be difficult and insisted that the world revolve around him. If I did not do what he wanted me to do, he would throw fits of rage. If he did not get his way he would take to bed for days and play "poor me". We went back and forth to many doctor visits, and they medicated and remedicated him over and over. I kept saying he needed to try to change, the medication alone would not just work like magic.
People did not believe what I had to see at home. Not until he went to live with his mom after the divorce. She called one day and said, "I can't believe you put up with this all those years! He's impossible to live with, I don't know what to do."
Be careful with your daughter, you did not mention how old she is, but at any age, you really want to keep an eye on things, and keep good communication with her to know what is going on.
Do you know if her boyfriend has asked for medical help?

Viktorious · 12-20-2006, 08:19 PM

My daughter is now 17 and will be 18 in a couple of months. We are very close and she has always been open with me about things. P(boyfriend) seems to be able to control his behaviour around others and he is good to her at times, but the monster seems to come out only around her and his immediate family. His whole family is dysfunctional and abusive and he is not diagnosed with bipolar disorder. His father has been diagnosed with it however. His mother thinks he is just naughty, or allergic to dairy products or infused with ***** or etc. My daughter's therapist had to know all about the situation and his behaviour and agreed that he is very possibly bipolar. I just can't imagine what he could be feeling when he is so cruel to her. I have even had talks with him about it and he just wants me to disregard what he did. Makes it seem trivial.

Viktorious · 12-20-2006, 08:19 PM

My daughter is now 17 and will be 18 in a couple of months. We are very close and she has always been open with me about things. P(boyfriend) seems to be able to control his behaviour around others and he is good to her at times, but the monster seems to come out only around her and his immediate family. His whole family is dysfunctional and abusive and he is not diagnosed with bipolar disorder. His father has been diagnosed with it however. His mother thinks he is just naughty, or allergic to dairy products or infused with ***** or etc. My daughter's therapist had to know all about the situation and his behaviour and agreed that he is very possibly bipolar. I just can't imagine what he could be feeling when he is so cruel to her. I have even had talks with him about it and he just wants me to disregard what he did. Makes it seem trivial.

Viktorious · 12-20-2006, 08:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Viktorious

My daughter is now 17 and will be 18 in a couple of months. We are very close and she has always been open with me about things. P(boyfriend) seems to be able to control his behaviour around others and he is good to her at times, but the monster seems to come out only around her and his immediate family. His whole family is dysfunctional and abusive and he is not diagnosed with bipolar disorder. His father has been diagnosed with it however. His mother thinks he is just naughty, or allergic to dairy products or infused with ***** or etc. My daughter's therapist had to know all about the situation and his behaviour and agreed that he is very possibly bipolar. I just can't imagine what he could be feeling when he is so cruel to her. I have even had talks with him about it and he just wants me to disregard what he did. Makes it seem trivial.