Is it normal to really really like your pdoc - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

harmony06 · 02-10-2007, 09:55 AM

i have this thing going on for my pdoc. i dont know what to do about it. i think he knows but he doesnt let on. does anyone else feel this way or is it just me. i sometimes think that maybe its because hes the only one that i really have to talk to, i can say anything to and wont be gudged. he is very professional, but i really like that in a man. i trust him and dont want to go to anyone else. i just need to know if this is normal or not. if not please advise me what you think i should to.

mudhound · 02-10-2007, 10:20 AM

be ever so careful. I hate to see anyone taken atvantage of. Or, worse yet, be let down hard. Shy away while you can.

paranormal · 02-10-2007, 10:37 AM

it's understandable, it happens quite a bit, but it's not very healthy in the counsellor-client relationship.

if you feel you like him a lot as a pdoc, cool. but if it's like him a lot as in "falling in love with him," then it's a no-no, very risky situation. and like mudhound mentioned, you can be taken advantage of if he found out that you were into him (you are in a very vulnerable position). or, he'd tell you that he cannot work with you anymore because it's not conducive to the professional relationship. it's against the law to have a relationship with a pdoc/counsellor so a decent pdoc would let you go if he found out (which is a good thing to do).

BUT, you have to also be aware that this may be the only emotion (if love) that you feel comfortable having towards a person whome you tell your deepest feelings and troubles to. you might truly dislike that, but you feel more comfortable being infatuated/in love by your pdoc than being frustrated/annoyed/confused by being so open with him. (if you told him, he might discuss this issue from this aspect).

make sure you know exactly what you're feeling, and do the right thing. you'll know in your heart what it is once you know how you feel.

take care

harmony06 · 02-10-2007, 10:38 AM

mudhound, thanks for your reply. i only see my pdoc once every three weeks so i dont think that anything will ever come of it but can a person really help how they feel? i was going through a very bad depression when i first started see him and now im feeling better. he just seems so caring although i know that i pay him well to sit there and listen to what i have to say. i dont see him as the type of guy to take advantage of the situation as hes been doing this for a long time and im sure he knows his boundaries. i do worry about being hurt because of the way i feel but cant stop that.

munchie11 · 02-10-2007, 08:14 PM

I absolutely love my pdoc (not in a romantic way though) I just think he is great. I always feel better after seeing him and my husband always stirs me, saying I'm planning to run away with him. We just laugh about it. It's just that I was so sick when I first went to see him and he has just persisted in making me feel better and I also feel he understands everything I tell him, even if I think it's silly. He also has a funny sense of humour and dos'nt take everything too serious (unless it really is of course), but we can have a giggle about the stupid stuff. I never want him to retire coz I wouldn't want to see anyone else.

Munchie