Hard times - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

ErylFlynn · 03-15-2007, 01:09 PM

Tonight is kung fu again, my love and I both are in the same class and belt rank. She missed on Tuesday, and with my knee hurt I didn't go last night. I have this mixed feelings, the excitement that I will see her again, it has been over a week, but the fear of her rebuking me again and still being mad at me. I am thinking if she is not there tonight I should call her and see how she is doing. I am worried she will get mad though, she wants space I just don't know how much to give her for how long.

Worse I want to just email her and just say I love you, but I am scared of her being angry. I am so confused.

marshmallow · 03-15-2007, 01:32 PM

Erylflynn, I am sorry your hurting but I understand how you are feeling. So many times I wanted to call my husband when we first separated and wasn't sure if I should or not. However, as a women I know being told someone loves me always makes me feel happy. I can't say how your wife will feel though. It is so sad to me what this illness does to relationships. I don't have any answers but just wanted to respond.

ErylFlynn · 03-15-2007, 01:47 PM

She isn't my wife though I had my hopes that would happen. She wasn't one to marry for love, but I want to. We talked a few times about it, and I think the last time she brought it up I reacted wrong. I guess I don't know enough about how she might be thinking to know how she will react. Maybe some of the woman that have bipolar would know if it would be a good thing or not.

marshmallow · 03-15-2007, 02:22 PM

Yes, maybe someone with bp can be more helpful. I guess I have the same problems knowing what to say to my estranged husband. I still love him but without meds it won't work. I wish you well.

rishi · 03-15-2007, 03:12 PM

hi eryl, you know i am not bp, however my long experience w/my son...which IS different, still has taught me that " one never knows " is a good rule of thumb. if she says no today, she may say yes,even she may not know when, or it can stay a " no" " for awile....have you thought about e-mailing her? maybe then you can choose your words, and let her know all that you have been learningmaybe even offer her acsess to this site? just some thoughts...you are a definite good guy to be doing this!! w/hope, rishi