Can anyone explain this please? - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

marshmallow · 04-20-2007, 03:29 PM

Most of you know I am separated from my husband and he is bp. He sent me an email saying I love you. Divorce me. I don't understand how those two go together. Then he said he wanted to explain something to me and when I asked him to he said I don't want to talk to you anymore. Anyone understand this? PLEASE...

rosequartz · 04-20-2007, 03:33 PM

marshmallow, it kinda reminds me of the title of that book on borderline personality disorder......I hate you, don't leave me.

I would just act nonchalant and when he wants to tell you he will. I'm wondering if this is game playing on his part.....kinda like "I've got a secret, and I'm not tellin'" to get you to pull teeth to get it out of him.

gooby · 04-20-2007, 03:35 PM

not sure of anything here but;

is it possible he realizes the grief his disorder is causing you and since he does love you, getting a divorce will (in his mind) relieve you from that grief?

I would suggest a lot of research on BP and how it manifests itself. You may simply be on the recieving end of his disorder. BP does cause some very strange and often contradictory actions.

Hopefully he is recieving medical help. There are many meds and combinations of meds available. It can take a lot of work and time to find what works for a person.

marshmallow · 04-20-2007, 03:37 PM

Thank you Rose your comments always help.

marshmallow · 04-20-2007, 03:38 PM

Gooby, he is not on meds and refuses to take meds. He is in denial that he is bp. I am so sad about all this. Thank you for your reply