Marshmallow - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

Dee-nah · 06-09-2007, 07:33 PM

Couldn't find your post so I thought I would start a new one...

How are you = )

marshmallow · 06-10-2007, 10:03 AM

Thanks for asking Deenah. I really don't know how to describe how I feel right now. It is not easy to end a marriage but he leaves me no choice. He told me he stopped the meds and will not take them to get back with me. He said he shouldn't have to earn his way back. Not quite accurate. Are you leveling out on the meds yet?

Dee-nah · 06-10-2007, 10:13 AM

So either way you don't want to be with someone like that... I know it's easier said then done but in the end you are going to be the happier person!

No yet, hopefully it will get better as the days go by. Today wasn't so bad but I purposely woke up early so I can take them then go back to bed so I didn't have to deal with the double vision. It worked today but I obviously I can't do that during the week... Hopefully it will go away!

marshmallow · 06-10-2007, 11:15 AM

You have no idea how much I admire you and the others that take this seriously enough to work a program of meds and whatever it takes. I hope all the mates realize how much you do go through in a day to function. Then you see the ones that do nothing and wonder why you can't live with them. My husband still thinks that spitting, breaking things, violent rage and all the other stuff is my fault. Frustrates me to see people like that when you work so hard to mangage things.

langlee · 06-10-2007, 11:24 AM

Hi Marshmallow,

I hope you don't mind my budding in here and that you won't take offense at my question, but I know you have been struggling with your husband and I wondered if you have ever considered attending a 12 Step Program for family members, such as Al-anon? Even though the circumstances are different, my understanding is that the family support groups are really designed to help you detach enough to be supportive without losing yourself. I believe there is even a group called Families Anonymous which is for any kind of issue or challenge.

Since your husband is off of meds again, his situation is no that different than anyone who has a problem they refuse to deal with.

Just a thought and, again, I hope I didn't offend you. I know how hurt you've been and I know people who have been where you are for a different reason and have really been helped by shifting the focus back to themselves and their own happiness.

Your in my thoughts, Marshmallow.

Always,

Hope