Do Bipolars attract people with depression? - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

luckygem13 · 06-10-2007, 11:32 PM

Just a thought. I suffer from (and basically always have) unipolar depression. The bipolars in my life are so full of positive energy and enthusiasm (yes I know they eventually crash, but)...they make me feel ALIVE. I know of a few other couples who are in the same boat as me & my husband...one with depression and the other partner with bipolar. I haven't read much about this phenomenon but it intrigues me and I do believe there is something there. Anyone ever heard of this?

marshmallow · 06-11-2007, 12:33 AM

Lucky, I was never depressed until I lived with a bper. It has dragged me to the depths of despair. The ever changing moods and rage has done so much damage to me. For me the depression came after.

MSLAINIE · 06-11-2007, 12:43 AM

Hi Luckygem13,
That is an interesting question. I am not BP but do go thru depression from time to time. But all my boyfriend and best friend are BP. My ex is BP and my son. So do I attract BP??? My depression is not often usually depending on my stress. I dont take meds now but I have in past. But on other hand all my BP's are so different and I dont feel they are any different then me. I think in this world of ours there are more people with some depression or illness than we know. I get upset because I dont think the public is informed enough.
I never really heard or read anything about this connection or attraction.
Your question after thinking about it,would make me believe you are on to something.
Thanks for the thought, I needed a distraction.
Mslainie

luckygem13 · 06-11-2007, 12:44 AM

Hi Marsh,

I believe being married to a bipolar has brought out a lot of anxiety in me but the depression almost seems better or at least no worse....it's the damn anxiety that I can't get over. I don't know maybe I am what they call bipolar III, a mild bipolar disorder that is brought on by the antidepressants....God knows I can never relax. Granted my husband is extremely unpredictable.....with a temper that I guess would give any wife anxiety.

How is life treating you? I do hope you are going out and having some fun. If you were in my "hood" I'd definitely be hauling your butt out for some fun activities!

Luvya,

Luckygem

luckygem13 · 06-11-2007, 12:57 AM

Mslanie,

Maybe you are Bipolar II? Just a thought. You say your depression comes and goes.....interesting because my depression stays and stays, LOL! AND you say the Bipolars in your life don't seem any different than you. The Bipolars in my life seem VERY different than me. I mean I can spot them a mile away and predict what will happen next with their behavior. This amazes my husband and he thinks I'm psychic....more like perceptive, LOL!

I just seem to have lots of bipolar friends. My p doc thinks this is because I live in a certain neighborhod that she is familiar with, let's just say we live at an extreme end of the socioecenomic scale. She literally said to me, "Well, you live in "_____" that's where all the crazy people live." ***? She said, Well that's a neighborhood where people have the ability to focus on one thing and ignore everything else....Hmmmm, very interesting because the "ignoring" part has gotten my husband into a lot of trouble....so I can't just ignore her words.

Take Care,

Luckygem13