kathryn00

i think it is a learned behavior to automatically hate someone back when they hurt you. but, i think it is a mature response to say "hey, something bigger must be happening here because she is not acting like the best friend i know."

it is not wrong to still want to be her friend. it is good that you don't want to abandon her even if she is acting that way. it is the bigger picture.

you are doing what she asked. giving her space. meanwhile, it is ok to still want to do things with other people.

it can seem peculiar and confusing when a best friend automatically turns their feelings off. you just have to decide what you want to do about it. if she has an illness, i wouldn't make a rash decision. not until you have done everything you can (and that means giving space). only then, once you have truly tried, can you decide that she means what she says.

it may take months so don't fret. just leave her alone for now. when you feel the time is right, send her a card or give her a call. 2 months or so from now she may be regretting all the things she said and cannot find a way to face you. a phone call out of the blue may be just the thing she needs. who knows, she may still feel the same way. but you can feel good that you cared enough to try.

i am sorry that she hurt you so. noone deserves to be talked to like that. i just think it is so much bigger of you to see the truth and understand that things are not always as they seem.

best to you,
kathryn