Date I went on tonight. - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

CarenR · 07-30-2007, 07:53 PM

hi since I have Bipolar 1 and my date doenst know this when should I tell him..? My daughter thinks I should wait until another few dates. to tell him that I have bipolar......... I am an honest person and so I think that I might tell him after the second date.. he told me how healthy he is.. right off the bat.

what advice do you have about this.?

thanks Caren

harmony06 · 07-30-2007, 08:05 PM

hi CarenR,

i don't have an answer for you but if it were me i wouldn't rush it. i'm assuming that you hardly know the guy. to me this is a personal issue and there is no reason to bring it up, if things look like they may become serious then i would tell him at that point. good luck to you.

till next time

harmony

goody2shuz · 07-30-2007, 08:13 PM

Hi, Caren

I personally think that a person should earn the right to know that you are Bipolar. What I mean by that is that the person should have the opportunity to get to know you as a person, your strengths and perhaps your weaknesses but basically get to know you for who you are. To see if you click and if the relationship is one that will have some potential for longevity. I just think that too many people have no idea what Bipolar is.....and that may lead to an early stigmatization that wouldn't allow the person the opportunity to see you for who you really rather than seeing you as having a mental illness. Once this guy is able to see you for YOU without being clouded by a misperception he will most likely take an interest in learning more about Bipolar and what that means and how it may affect your relationship in the long run.

The time to tell him will be clear to you. So perhaps a second date may be too soon.....I think that you should allow yourselves some time to get to know one another before sharing your Bipolarity to him. Like a person who has ADD and is properly medicated may not disclose that information right away, I think that you should wait a bit and give each of you time to see one another without any misjudgements getting in the way.

Hope this helps you out a little bit.

~ Goody

desee · 07-30-2007, 08:22 PM

I just recently posted about bipolar and dating. The summary it seem like with everyone is up to you if you want to tell that person and it should be in your own time.

Also does this person want a relationship? there is a lot to think about. If you do decide to tell this person, what kind of knowledge does this person have on bipolar? Go from there.

Good Luck

**** · 07-31-2007, 03:59 AM

I treat bipolar like the color of my hair. Its part of me, its how I am. I don't have to talk about it, but I'll mention it when it comes up. Everyone who knows me knows I'm bipolar.