I remember when you first started posting and were not very stable. You've been feeling so much better and this combination of meds seem to be working. Isn't it interesting that you wouldn't consider NOT taking your med for hypertension because you know how dangerous to your life that could be, but you were contemplating not taking meds for BP?
Regarding your hubbie: does he not realize that bipolar disorder is a bio-chemical problem in the part of the brain that controls thought process and emotional balance?? That it is a disease every bit as "real" as diabetes,etc?? He needs to read up on the disorder so he understands that you need medication to maintain stability and that he is lucky you have found medications that work well for you.
Everyone goes through a period where they wonder if the meds are really necessary. Some stop taking their meds and find out the hard way that, "yes, they are necessary." Spare yourself that step and just realize that you are blessed to have found meds that work well for you!
On another note, how is your son doing?