Jules, Tsohl brings up some GREAT points. I have a very cose friend who's daughter went to Penn State and she was crying all the time about how much she hated being away and wanted to come home. They made a pact to see how she felt after the first semester and re-evaluate. My friend was already thinking about how certain she was that her daughter would be coming home.
Well, turns out that when it came time to re-evaluate, her daughter was fine with continuing on and is now into her second year and adjusting fine.
I have the reverse situation with Kait but that is even beginning to change over time. I wouldn't hear from her for a week sometimes even more. NOw I am hearing from her at least once a day if not more and it isn't about her needing money
Last night she called me to tell me that she loved and missed me and she has been calling me on all of her breaks at her internship just to talk!!
I guess it's when we let go that they really grow!!
So do the mom thing and tell her to give it a chance and try staying the weekends. The weekends are when everybody gets a chance to really lay back and relax and socialize more and she may be better able to meet friends that way. Encourage her to do that.....realistically I see her not taking too well the that especially since her coming home is her ticket to getting to see her BF. But then again, perhaps it's time that the BF took a trip up there so she can have him visit in her surroundings for a change. Just a few thoughts.
I re-watched Oprah's show at 1am and as much as people are complaining about it, I really think they did a pretty good job with the hour that she had. I think that she could have done a little bit more research and perhaps read "An Unquiet Mind" so that she had more insight into BP. I KNOW that when she has read somebody's book she ALWAYS brings up a favorite part that opened up her understanding and she didn't do that. Oprah got alot of flack for using the word "CRAZY" which definitely shows the lack of empathy that the normal lay person will have when learning that somebody has Bipolar. But she really didn't mean harm by it but it just goes to show that if Oprah can say things like that without thinking then how are we to expect that the rest of America won't??!!
I really liked Jennifer Lewis' attitude when she said that you have to "work" at it.....that the key to getting well is to "work" at it. When Oprah asked her to explain that she went on to say that it is a matter of getting up each morning and coaching yourself into how important it is to take your meds and to tell yourself that it is going to be a wonderful day and that life is good and that you are a GREAT person who is going to live life the best that you can. And that by doing that and going to therapy she has a wonderful, fulfiling life. She did talk openly about how it took 4 years for her therapist to talk her into taking the meds that she needed and for her and her pdoc to find the ones that worked the best for her. And that when she had any problems like a dry mouth he would make adjustments and that when one of them affected her libido she point blank told her pdoc that there was no way she was going to miss out on that fun!!!
And her pdoc and her worked through that too!!
There was alot of criticism about how Oprah brought in the stars rather than regular everyday people afflicted with this disorder but I think that her intentions were to show America that BP does not have prejudice....that even the best most successful people in life have it and can overcome it and lead extremely fulfilling lives once they seek treatment for BP.
I only hope that Oprah can bring on parents with children who have BP and how it often presents itself so differently than it does with adults and how it really affects the entire family unit in overcoming it. They are asking for comments to the show but in order to do that you must be willing to be part of a future show if they wish for you to do so. I don't know if Erin would be comfortable about that or if I am even ready to do so. I have a strong urge to make some comments but not without first thinking it thoroughly through and having Erin 100% on board. But I am tempted especially when it comes to helping others to understand BP and erase the stigma. Perhaps you would like to consider it Tsohl since your son seems to be the poster child for BP.
Well that's my update and response to yesterday's show.
(((((HUGS)))) to all ~ Goody