i don't like others... - Bipolar Disorder Message Board

naturemomma816 · 10-31-2007, 12:54 PM

I am going trick-or-treating tonight w/ my family and some friends, (the only friends I still like). My question/comment is, I don't like others. Maybe I should explain a lil'.

I am very quick to cut people out of my life. Does anyone else do this? Usually I am loud spoken and quick to say what I think and/or feel. I also tend to not be forgiving of others and their flaws. I am this way regadless of meds or flux moods. An example: I had a married couple that my husband and I were friends with, they were due to pick up my daughter for a sleep over (just set hours earlier) and they never showed up or called to cancel. My daughter had all of her things packed and ready to go and could not understand where they were or why they never showed. So, at this point I am done w/ them. I have seen them at a few social gathering since and they still offered no explanation. Since this occured, I have no desire to speak to them or call them my friends. My husband on the other hand is much more forgiving. So, is this a trait of BP or am I just an unforgiving person? This is only one example of many. I have no patience and really I don't think I care to. I am very caring and loving to my family, and very forgiving of them, as they are of me. I would like to have more friends, but I am very closed off and rather protective of my emotions and feelings. I have one friend who I have been close to for 15 yrs. we are more like sisters actually. So I know I am capable, I just feel like a loner.

At work I am very bubbly and happy to talk to anyone. I am very funny and enjoy talking to strangers. (sounds weird). But with friends, I don't tolerate much. I don't tell them off, I just cut them off. I usually just vent to my husband instead of the perp.

Anyway, just thought I'd ask.
Naturemomma

simpletruth · 10-31-2007, 02:15 PM

All I can say or will say now is those with BP DO WITHOUT QUESTION cut people off, and seem very unforgiving at times, cruel, and blameshift. And no matter what others try at times, it doesn't change it. A lot more I could say to balance that, but you are not alone in how you feel, that is for sure.

marshmallow · 10-31-2007, 02:23 PM

My husband did not make many close friends but with me he stuck like glue. He had told me to divorce him and then he explained it was because he knew he was not any good for me. No matter what happened between us he always came back the next day. When he use to say divorce me I thought he was pushing me away until I learned how he meant it for my protection.

Dee-nah · 10-31-2007, 02:33 PM

I think I started opening up more when my child was born and people would come up and ask how old he was, etc... Before that I would never talk to anyone and now I talk to everyone! I DO NOT get close though, that is a NO NO for me! Only certain people I will allow to get close to me!

LoudWhispers · 10-31-2007, 03:11 PM

I think that sometimes we can go overboard with lableing everything BP. I've always been the crazy one but I haven't had interpersonal problems. I have many more close relationships with friends and family than my "normal" wife. We do have individual personality traits, independent of our mood swings.

LW