It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Bipolar Disorder Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 04-09-2009, 05:33 AM   #1
Junior Member
(female)
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: lewiston me united s
Posts: 12
snowbunny09 HB User
Unhappy help! missing pdoc

its been two months since i last saw my pdoc and to know that i will never see him again is devestating. i feel lost, deserted, afraid, lonely, hurt, and sad. i want to cry and scream. i want to call him, hear his voice again, talk to him. how am i going to get through this? why did he have to leave? so what i have another pdoc. it isn't the same. i've been seeing my pdoc for three years every three weeks. i miss him, i need him and i want him back. i have no idea where he is, only that he took another job elsewhere. i've known that he was leaving about four months before he did but i kept denying it to myself. now he is gone and i don't know how to deal with it. i feel miserable.

when i went to my knew pdoc all i did was cry but i didn't tell him it was because i missed my old pdoc. instead i blamed it on other things. i don't know why i didn't tell him, i think that i'm imbarrassed to feel this way.

if i don't stop here i will go on and on with this. just needed to let everything out.

snowbunny

 
Old 04-09-2009, 10:49 AM   #2
Member
(female)
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Cape Town, SA
Posts: 75
bluegreensky HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

hey sb,

sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time...that is precisely why we have such strict ethical boundaries here in south africa..doctors make sure that patients don't get the opportunity to become dependant on them..i know it probably feels like you will never get through this, but trust me, you will, it's gonna take time though...

i urge you to take this experience and learn from it..i beleive that it is very important for bp people to have a drawn up chart of all people in your support network with clearly defined roles and you should stick to it, this will give you the opportunity to not get dependant on your new pdoc and rather rely on close friends or family for personal support, pdocs are there to diagnose and prescribe in a medical capacity...

this is just my opinion and how i would deal with similar situation...

hang in there..it will get better...

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 04-09-2009, 11:07 AM   #3
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Posts: 1,232
Llama HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

DId your pdoc go out of state? Or is he still in the same town. Just a thought. I got a letter once when I was seeing this psychologist that he was leaving and it didn't say where to. I don't know how I came across it, but I found out that he was just at a different clinic in town. I never did go back to see him though lol.

Last edited by moderator2; 04-13-2009 at 05:35 PM. Reason: posted disallowed website(s) - please read the posting rules

 
Old 04-09-2009, 07:48 PM   #4
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 1,916
seaturtle HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

When you next see your new doc, tell him everything about what you're going through. These transition are just awful, so painful - and your new doc can help you work this through.

I've been through what you're going through, and it was terribly painful, too. But take my word for it, if you bring it into therapy, the results will help you so much in your recovery.

Seaturtle

 
Old 04-09-2009, 11:09 PM   #5
Inactive
(female)
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 5,070
katlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB Userkatlin09 HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

I feel for you I know how awful the transitions can be.

over the summer my pdoc had to take over my therapy because my tdoc was on med leave for 4 months, when it came to changing back, I was so anxious, stressed and haing panic attacks, it was awful....and this was my normal tdoc that I was going back to. It took a while to ease me away from my pdocs way of doin thing to getting back into my tdocs way of doing things, but after 2 months things were pretty much back to normal.

kat

 
Old 04-10-2009, 04:41 AM   #6
Junior Member
(female)
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: lewiston me united s
Posts: 12
snowbunny09 HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

thanks everyone for responding, i will somehow get through this it would help if i at least saw my pdoc more often, i saw him once and won't see him again for six weeks.

im glad im not the only one to feel this way. i thought that maybe i was alone. your not supposed to get so attached to your pdoc.

anyway im feeling better today at least for now

thanks alot

snowbunny

 
Old 04-10-2009, 06:26 AM   #7
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: WI
Posts: 4,189
dreams in neon HB Userdreams in neon HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

Quote:
Originally Posted by snowbunny09 View Post
thanks everyone for responding, i will somehow get through this it would help if i at least saw my pdoc more often, i saw him once and won't see him again for six weeks.

im glad im not the only one to feel this way. i thought that maybe i was alone. your not supposed to get so attached to your pdoc.

anyway im feeling better today at least for now

thanks alot

snowbunny
I know exactly how you feel.

My old pdoc recommended that I find another pdoc because he thought my case of bipolar was too difficult for him to treat.

I ended up calling his office yesterday to find out if I could see him again and he agreed, so I have an appointment on Monday.

I don't think there's anything bad about having a close professional relationship with your pdoc. This is certainly the case for me when it comes to my old pdoc. He's compassionate, caring and is one of the best pdocs I've ever had which is a large part of the reason why I called to find out if I could start seeing him again.

By the way, I feel the same way about my tdoc. When the day comes that I need to find another, I will feel depressed and my next tdoc will have a very tough act to follow.
__________________
Atypical Bipolar I Disorder with Rapid Cycling
Meds:
Depakote 1500mg
Prozac 40mg
Risperdal 1mg titrating to 6mg/day
Klonopin .5mg (2x/day)
Trazodone 100mg or 200mg PRN

Last edited by dreams in neon; 04-10-2009 at 06:27 AM.

 
Old 04-12-2009, 04:52 AM   #8
Junior Member
(female)
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: lewiston me united s
Posts: 12
snowbunny09 HB User
Re: help! missing pdoc

thank you i really appreciate all your understanding. it means alot to me. although i don't believe that i will ever get over him, hopefully it'll at least get easier. my heart aches just thinking about him. i really really miss him.

snowbunny

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
schizophrenia help me know what i have please sader Schizophrenia 14 05-25-2010 01:45 PM
Will "Bouncy Vision" go away...HELP!!!? Giovanni Miceli Inner Ear Disorders 17 05-20-2010 07:49 PM
need help ceeceee Autism Spectrum 8 04-25-2010 02:20 PM
Please help low eGFR WhenItRains Kidney Disorders 6 04-25-2010 09:06 AM
Help...arm pain? Robin Boetcher Open to All Other Health Topics 3 04-24-2010 07:08 AM




Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




Join Our Newsletter

Stay healthy through tips curated by our health experts.

Whoops,

There was a problem adding your email Try again

Thank You

Your email has been added




Top 10 Drugs Discussed on this Board.
(Go to DrugTalk.com for complete list)
Abilify
Depakote
Lamictal
Lexapro
Lithium
  Prozac
Seroquel
Wellbutrin
Zoloft
Zyprexa




TOP THANKED CONTRIBUTORS



reesie (68), katlin09 (59), Administrator (24), TinoRock (14), bprapcyc (10), thatgirl141 (7), lynnlee (6), annii456 (4), ghelpmelivelife (4), ginger3130 (3)

Site Wide Totals

teteri66 (1162), MSJayhawk (990), Apollo123 (890), Titchou (825), janewhite1 (823), Gabriel (757), ladybud (736), sammy64 (666), midwest1 (665), BlueSkies14 (610)



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:26 PM.



Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2014 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!