Do you think it's possible to become friends w/your tdoc after terminating your therapy? Not in a romantic sense.....just, pals? Or is this a ghastly ethical breach of conduct?
I can't imagine that a doc would feel comfortable continuing a non-professional relationship after your care was not in his/her hands, especially if they were of the opposite sex. This just sounds like something that might be considered unethical in regards to the patient/dr. code. I mean why would you want to, knowing that they know everything about you, every little nook and cranny of your mental "house" so to speak. It just seems like a wierd thing to do, but that's just my opinion.
I don't see how it's that much "weirder" of a desire than to desperately miss working with someone you get along well with. It seems very human to me to want to avoid the pain of severing a very intimate relationship, and to search for any way (illogical or not) around breaking that tie. I guess the problem is that the intimacy is really one-sided here.
Last edited by FisforFozzy; 04-11-2009 at 06:32 PM.
Honestly being frank the way you talk about searchign for any way, illogical or not, sounds kind of stalkerish, and I'm sure you don't mean it that way. But I just can't imagine a professional Psychologist or Psychiatrist agreeing to 1. becoming a friend to one of their ex-patients, because lets face it, you were never friends, you were dr. and patient, and 2. contiuing to seeing an ex-patient on a social basis after the dr. patient relationship has been severed, 3. this was never meant to be an "intimate" relationship, I mean yeah it's great and preferrable if you get along well with your pdocs and tdocs, but at the end of the day, their still just your doctors.
I'm sure it would be strange for them with all that they know about you, it would most likely be very uncomfortable for them.
Do you think it's possible to become friends w/your tdoc after terminating your therapy? Not in a romantic sense.....just, pals? Or is this a ghastly ethical breach of conduct?
I know someone who continues to be friends with her tdoc after they stopped seeing each other due to insurance reasons. I see nothing wrong with this as long as the tdoc feels comfortable maintaining a friendly relationship.
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I don't see anything wrong with seeing a tdoc after your therapy is done. As long as the tdoc is ok with.
I know I used to see a social worker at my old school on a regular basis because of my anxiety. I know longer see her but we still stay in contact.
Honestly being frank the way you talk about searchign for any way, illogical or not, sounds kind of stalkerish, and I'm sure you don't mean it that way.
kat
LOL. No, I didn't mean it that way. I meant searching for a psychological justification----not for any physical means. lol.
I don't see anything wrong with seeing a tdoc after your therapy is done. As long as the tdoc is ok with.
I know I used to see a social worker at my old school on a regular basis because of my anxiety. I know longer see her but we still stay in contact.
I still see a tactile interpeter (an interpeter who facilitates communication for a deafblind person) despite the fact that she has worked with me many times in the past. She's okay with this since I no longer use her services due to the fact that I now have cochlear implants.
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Last edited by dreams in neon; 04-11-2009 at 07:57 PM.
When I start practicing psychiatry, I do not plan to see any of my patients outside of the office setting since I do not feel comfortable with this arrangement.
However, I think every tdoc and pdoc has the right to decide this for themselves.
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Last edited by dreams in neon; 04-11-2009 at 08:01 PM.
The therapists I've see all have had an adamant NO to this. There is something, too, about them not being allowed to associate for two years after termination.
I'd love to be a friend of two of them, but can't. Not for an intimate (emotionally, that is) relationship, just because we share the same interests.
As much as I love my tdoc, I would feel very uncomfortable asking him if we could maintain a friendly relationship after I stop seeing him as a patient.
I feel differently about my tactile interpreter though since (as Seaturtle said) we share many of the same interests.
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I don't see anything wrong with seeing a tdoc after your therapy is done. As long as the tdoc is ok with.
I know I used to see a social worker at my old school on a regular basis because of my anxiety. I know longer see her but we still stay in contact.
Ummm....yeah but probably in a student teacher/social worker type way, isn't she quite a bit older than you?? I mean would you really call yourselves friends? Like going out for pizza, taking in movie hangig out at each other's houses friends?
I still see a tactile interpeter (an interpeter who facilitates communication for a deafblind person) despite the fact that she has worked with me many times in the past. She's okay with this since I no longer use her services due to the fact that I now have cochlear implants.
Once again though isn't that apples and oranges? You have to admit that there is a big difference between regular doctors and Psych Docs.....it's just a whole difference dimention and relationship.
And an interpretor many people are very good friends with their iterpretor because they have to spend so much time with them.
I've played on a softball team with my GP, as a hitter, and had a runner for me, it was her idea, and I was totally comfortable with it....but would never in a million years be comfortable doing anything like that with either my pdoc or tdoc, and I love both of them and wouldn'tchange them in a millionyears. I don't know, I just couldn't imagine any professional pdoc or tdoc beingcomfortable with that type of arrangement.
I've played on a softball team with my GP, as a hitter, and had a runner for me, it was her idea, and I was totally comfortable with it....but would never in a million years be comfortable doing anything like that with either my pdoc or tdoc, and I love both of them and wouldn'tchange them in a millionyears. I don't know, I just couldn't imagine any professional pdoc or tdoc beingcomfortable with that type of arrangement.
kat
Okie-dokey. Thank you, kat. You have been very thorough in your explanation of your adamant "it's a no-go" stance. It's a sub-par idea. I think I've got it.
Once again though isn't that apples and oranges? You have to admit that there is a big difference between regular doctors and Psych Docs.....it's just a whole difference dimention and relationship.
And an interpretor many people are very good friends with their iterpretor because they have to spend so much time with them.
k
I don't think it is. Interpreters are bound to follow a strict code of ethics which means that they are not allowed to see their clients outside of an interpreting assignment. Many do, but again, this a violation of the COE.
I also don't think the relationship one has with a GP, tdoc or pdoc is any more significant than the one I have with my former tactile interpreter. My tactile interpreter and I have been through alot together and she has seen me when I was at my lowest point after I lost my hearing. She also saw my delight after I was declared a cochlear implant candidate.
Relationships are relationships no matter who they are with.
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Last edited by dreams in neon; 04-11-2009 at 09:51 PM.
Ummm....yeah but probably in a student teacher/social worker type way, isn't she quite a bit older than you?? I mean would you really call yourselves friends? Like going out for pizza, taking in movie hangig out at each other's houses friends?
That's the question that's on the table here.
kat
I only said that we were keeping in contact with each other. I usually visit her at the school she works at. She is totally ok with it. I wouldn't call this a relationship either. I wouldn't really want that. And your right she is older than me. When you ask me would I consider her and I friends ofcourse I would. But in the way that you defined friends I guess I wouldn't meet that criteria. I'm fine just meeting her at the school anyways. We don't need to spend time with each other elsewhere.
Friends do not necessarily have to spend time together at movies or at each other's homes. They can be just as happy having a casual relationship.
Besides, what about online friends? I obviously don't go to the movies with anyone here, but does that mean we can't have a relationship that we all value?
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Okie-dokey. Thank you, kat. You have been very thorough in your explanation of your adamant "it's a no-go" stance. It's a sub-par idea. I think I've got it.
I wasn't makeing an adamant "no-go" stance, I thought we were allowed to input our opinion in a debate style talk. I'm justsaying how I feel, if you want to do it and feel its fine, that's fine for you, I just have a diffeent opinion. Sorry if I offended you.
Friends do not necessarily have to spend time together at movies or at each other's homes. They can be just as happy having a casual relationship.
Besides, what about online friends? I obviously don't go to the movies with anyone here, but does that mean we can't have a relationship that we all value?
We could debate this all night but if you go back and look at the OP's first 2 posts it's pretty clear that she wants some type of friendship/relationship where there would be outside contact, not just talking on the phone now and again or a casual relationship as you put it, whatever that entails.
I meant searching for a psychological justification----not for any physical means. lol. 
