Not sure how many people deal with this issue but, I seem to have a crazy sex drive. Im not sure how this affects my husband. I can go a week and half without sex and sometimes be so irritable that I dont want to be touched. Then, out of no where, I will want to have sex two days in a row.
Some background; I am 31 and take wellbutrin in the AM, and Lamictal and Gabapentin in the PM. I used to suffer from rapid cycling, but this combinitation has relieved me from so many quick swings in moods. Before meds., when I thought nothing was wrong , I was promiscuous and highly sexual (2 or 3x a day).
Anyway, now, sometimes I find myself wanting to flush my meds because I hate this drop in my sex drive. My husband says it doesn't bother him more than having an unstable wife; he said he would rather put up with less sex than to have to fight me everynight. I dont know, I just want to know how many of you guys experience any of this??
Personally I think you and your hubby are much better then me and mine are. I feel so bad for my hubby because there have been times when we have gone almost an entire year without any sex. Then we will get together a few times in one month, then we will have a long dry spell again. He is such a patient man and doesn't pressure me, he waits for me to make the first move. Although sometimes I wish he would. My major problem is my meds make me so sleepy at night, by the time I get upstairs and brush my teeth, I can barely keep my eyes open let alone get busy! Sometimes I will take my meds upstairs with me though and wait to take them until after, but that doesn't happen often obviously. Tell your hubby my story and I am sure he will appreciate how much he gets it... LOL
Well, not exactly, but we do know that the medications we take can affect our sex drive, usually reducing it to zilch......Have you talked this over your with doctor? I'm just wondering if maybe you're still having a bit of mood swinging.....Two or three times a day? Wow! Maybe as your husband is getting older he is appreciating that he's not having to perform as often!
What you're dealing with is pretty normal. Almost all of the Psych meds have some form of sexual side effect, and there's really no getting around them. Do yourself a favor, listen to your husband and try not to cause yourself any undo worry. If he says he's okay with it, then be okay with it too. It sounds like you're doing well on the meds and they're working....that's the important thing. Not having sex on a regular schedule or set times a week/month is much better than getting a divorce because your spouse can't deal with the rapid cycling. And unfortunately that's the road that many BP'ers face when they don't take their meds or get the help they need.
Take care and trust your man that he's telling you the truth. Just keep the lines of communication open and you guys will be fine.
You are not alone! I've experienced this both on and off meds. It all has to do with your mood swings, and even if you are taking medicine, it only helps to contain your moods. I still become manic and depressed although i'm on medicine, but it just isn't AS BAD. And usually the medicine will make you tired. So with your fluctuating moods, and the side effects... you could want to get busy almost never, a normal amount, or an unreal amount.
I'm in the same exact boat. I want to stop taking my meds so I will want to have sex again. My husband and I have it about twice a month. We've only been married for three years. I feel awful about it. But he says it's not all about sex. He does, on occasion, pressure me and that just turns me off even more. When I talked to my pdoc about this, he told me it's not the meds. I'm like, "Are you kidding me?". I was never like this before. But, I would never stop my meds for the sake of everyone around me.
yes i have found the same thing out me and my partner use to have it every day he's lucky if he gets it once a month now i cant bear the thought of him putting his hands on me but the thing is i love having sex with him so i think it has some thing to do with the tablets we are taking .
i am on meds 48 and my sex drive has gotten worse dont care to have sex with my spouse think all the time about random sex never have done it but i really want to dont no how to stop thinking about it seeking phychiatrist as i am typing this on hold of course real good with someone with bipolar! suggestions answers anything could help but i doubt it thanks anyways for anyone getting back to me
Any medication that stops my sex drive is welcome. I think about sex 24/7 sometimes 48/7 unless I am deeply depressed and I do not want to feel like that to have a rest from those thoughts. I was a happy camper when I was on Seroquel, Lexapro and Klonopin. No sexual drive, I was in heaven but as all good things it did not last.