so dissapointed - Birth Control Message Board

shannonkristin · 01-15-2007, 07:57 AM

hi! I had my copper iud inserted in november at a planned parenthood in my area. I don't have health insurance because i am not married and chose to stay home with my child after birth. I cannot handle the hormones in the birth control pills.
I had just ended my second cycle with my iud after having my 1 month post op check in december. I used tampons and excerised, all of which she said i could do. i check my stringson thurs and they were fine, then on friday i checked them again, and i could feel the bottom of my iud. thi was at 2:30 in the afternoon, in whick my clinic was closed and no other pp could help me because i wasnt a patient. I called a health clinic near me that is free and the elderly lady on the phone just told me to take it out myself, and i said no i can't its still mostly in my uterus, she told me they couldn't help me and hung up. I sucked it up and went to the er... after waiting for four hours i left and decided to wait it out untill tues when they reopen... i feel fine, no bleeding, no pain. i wouldn't have known it unless i checked.
now i jsut feel emotionally awful about this... i feel like a failure, because i love this method... and i want to continue using this.
now my question is if anyone knows if they will just take this one out and give me a new one that same day? They insisted that i had this one put in during my period, but why make me come in twice and expose me to infection twice... if anyone has any experience with this can you please share.

smallgingerone · 01-18-2007, 02:33 AM

Hi,

Sorry i didn't see this post earlier as i too had an IUD expel, within a week and a half of having it put in.

How did it go at the clinic?

My story was that on the first day of my first period after my IUD was put in checked the strings and could feel the bottom of the IUD. Because at that point I had a the smaller version that is available in the UK i could feel the sides of it and it was poking me. This was at 7pm at night so i had to wait until the next day to go to the clinic. I wasn't in agony so I didn't go to A&E that night.

When i got to the clinic the nurse couldnt see the bottom of it so I had to have an ultrasound to see where it was. Although it was completely inside of my cervix it was too low down to be used as a contraceptive so needed to be removed. The only reason I couldn't have a new one put in that day was that they didnt have any appointments left to fit them so I had to go back 3 days later.

I had a Nova T put in which is a bit bigger and have had that since the end of October, have had two periods with it and have had no problems at all, so it doesn't necessarily mean you can't have another one put in.

I hope it all went okay on Tuesday and you are a bit more comfortable now.

shannonkristin · 01-18-2007, 11:07 AM

ok well i went on tues, in which the doc reused to give me another one untill my next period. which i am in midcycle, and it is possible that if you had intercouse that whatever spem was waiting in there to implant an egg could get you pregnant with its removal. i raised a fit and said how all of the paperwork that i signed said i could get another one immediatly after expulsion. she basically told me how i was lucky they got me in there today... and made it seem like i was a hassle... well i only did what was required of me if i felt the tip of it... i was really upset in there... because it costed me alot of money too...
i even told her to leave the room... because she was really irritating me and being a ***** about the whole thing... when i went to the front desk the woman there was really kind to me and understood. i am a stay at home mom and not married yet, i cannot afford to have my money thrown away in the trash. i told her how its inconvient to come here all the time and i always pay at my time of service... i had to pay 30 bucks for her to pull it out and throw it away... geez for as much as was hanging out... i could have done it for free... so when i got home i called another office... and they will do it for me without my period... they said they do it during then because of the pain... well i had a vaginal child birth... kidney stones, and stents ripped out of my urethra without being numbed... it doesn't get anyworse... well the other office called them and they said no no... they will give me another one for free... so i just have to wait for my next period... this is just such a pain in the butt... especially for the way that this doctor has treated me...
when i went there for iud in the first place... she acted like i wasn't capable of making this kind of choice... critisized me for not breastfeeding my child for longer than 6 weeks... (we had problems) told me i should have done this, and done that... and that my fiancee will cheat on me and give me a disease... i was like what?!? shes a real doosey... who knows if i even trust her to give me another one.

smallgingerone · 01-19-2007, 06:07 AM

That sounds like you have had a really awful experience with a really awful doctors.

I hate it when doctors make it sound like its your fault when you havent done anything wrong.

I was lucky in a way because i was still on the pill when my IUD expelled so there was no worry in just putting another one in. I had both of mine put in not on a period.

It must be a really pain to wait for your next period but it will only be a couple of weeks and it will be sorted. Do you think you might be able to have another doctor put the next one in? I think I would ask explaining to the woman on the front desk that you didnt feel comfortable with the way you were treated.

Good luck

shannonkristin · 01-19-2007, 07:27 AM

see my birthday is on the 28th... and it just really stinks because we have a really romantic weekend planned... i don't need a pregnancy to worry about... when i got pregnant with my first i was accused to trying to get pregnant by my fiancees mother... when her son and i knew we were having un protected intercourse... i chose this method because it works best for me... and i paid out of pocket for all of it. i have been so emotional about this, because i feel like a failure, and because my fiancee is paying for everything, and i feel like i let him down. i feel like something that was mine was taken away. i dont know what the big deal is just reinserting one regarding weather or not i have my period. i mean you just ripped it out... you are just risking me getting pregnant, and giving me another exposure to infection. then at the clinic the lady gave me condoms, omg they were the worst thing in the world. us trying to use them was probably the most funny thing to watch, thank god we love each other...

the other thing is that we have had sexual problems (him) in the past. he is bipolar and his meds have messed up his desire alot... and finally things are wonderful... like we finally have that connection, and he shows that attraction to me... and finally when it gets all better... im off limits!!! that stinks!!! as much as i've been deprived... oh and the doc told me to be abstenent... yeah ok... just the way i was treated grrrr!!!