Urgent help - Do we need the morning after pill? - Birth Control Message Board

thecameraeye · 01-23-2007, 11:05 AM

Okay, girlfriend and I were having intercourse last night. A friend bummed me a condom but I hate condoms... I put it on anyways and the usual happens...very tough to get in, I can't achieve orgasm with it, etc. Finally I got ****ed, threw the condom off, and proceeded to do the withdrawl method which I know is extremely risky. Well, I've done the withdrawl method 4 times before without getting a chick pregnant.

However - I'm always extremely worried with my current g/f because I know we're not ready for a kid yet. I was good about this time as well - I am 99.9% sure nothing leaked out, I didn't feel anything, to be safe, most of the intercourse was with her outer labia.

In any of the time that I was inside her (which was not very long) I was keeping my mind on other things so I wouldn't orgasm and have any fluid leak out.

She says she's 100% positive nothing happened and we were safe enough..she said she's not going to spend any money on a pill. She usually worries about that stuff so that's pretty confident on her part. On the other hand, I'm a compulsive worrier. Should I be worried? Should I spend $45 on a morning after pill?

Need a reply quick. Thanks!

shannonkristin · 01-23-2007, 11:35 AM

if you are not ready for a child yet... don't you think it would be the best 45.00 you could spend... better safe than sorry my dear. alternitive options for handleing a pregnancy once it is already there are much more expensive, and you may not be ready for those choices.

livinTX · 01-23-2007, 11:38 AM

Well, if you think there's a possibility, the sooner the pill is taken, the more effective it is. Do you know where in her cycle she is? If she has regular 28 day cycles, she'd probably be OK if she's in the first week of her cycle (just off her period) or in the mid-3rd to 4th week of her cycle. From about day 8 to day 20 of her cycle (depending on when she ovulates, around day 14 is the most fertile day if her cycle is textbook perfect, so just before to 2 weeks into her cycle is riskiest), she'd be in her most fertile time, so I'd definitely spend the money on Plan B if that were the case. Cycle day 1 is the first day of her period. So say she started her last period on Jan. 11. Jan. 11 would be cycle day 1, and today would be day 12, a pretty risky time, given sperm can survive 5 days in fertile cervical mucus.

You can also ask her if she noticed in vaginal discharge the day before or the day of having sex. If she had discharge resembling uncooked eggwhites, that is very fertile cervical mucus, the type sperm survive best in and it occurs around ovulation, when a woman is most fertile. If she had this, definitely get Plan B.

The withdrawal method is not a very foolproof form of birth control. Definitely, you shouldn't rely on it if you don't want a baby.