Secret and private birth control method? - Birth Control Message Board

freesoul2009 · 06-17-2009, 04:47 PM

I don't want kids now, but my boyfriend does. I dont want to get pregnant for atleast 2 years until I get my MBA, but he is being an ***.

Worst come to worst, if he pressured me into leaving pills, what secret birth control options I have? IUD? Injections? Please advise.

I will prefer a method which even goes undetected in IUI (artificial insemination) and ultrasound exam (will IUD show up? Will absense of eggs come up). I dont even want doctors to know I am practising bc.

Plz don't judge me on what I am doing. Its complicated.

Thanks

jana83 · 06-18-2009, 11:41 AM

I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. I suppose talking it out is not an option?

An IUD will probably show up. How about an implant? It's placed under the skin on your arm and so it may escape a doctor's attention. Although I'm preety sure you don't have a period for some months, so that may not be a good option either.

Other than secretly taking the pill, I have no idea (maybe go to a totally different doctor to get it?). You could try doing the natural awareness method and avoid sex on the days you're fertile, if that's an option, but it's likely your BF would be aware of what you're doing (it requires mesuring your basal body temperature every morning) and would want to use it for getting pregnant instead. You could learn about the cervical mucous method, which however is not that reliable unless done properly and it takes some time to learn.

How about you make a deal with your BF that you will take BCP for another year and then go off to prepare your body for pregnancy, which would ideally take a year

- it's really good to flush the BC out of your system before getting pregnant, no matter what anyone says.

Also, in case all else fails, do some research on what to AVOID when trying to become pregnant (like hot baths etc.) and do some of it (that doesn't endanger your health). It may not work at all, but at least hot baths don't sound so bad.

I hope everything turns out all right.

esker · 06-18-2009, 02:24 PM

You can get birth control injections. There's two different kinds. They both last for three months. It costs about 30 to 60 dollars for the injection plus the cost of a doctor's appointment once a month.

freesoul2009 · 06-18-2009, 03:35 PM

Thanks Jana and Esker

Will injections stop ovulation? Will eggs be produced? If i go thru ultrasound, I dont want doctor to be suspicious.

Thanks

Tivo123 · 06-18-2009, 04:53 PM

But the problem is that there are all sorts of negative implications if you go through IVF knowing that you're on birth control. You could potentially get very sick if you go through all of the process while being on birth control. I mean it could potentially be deadly for you.

I think you're better off just telling him that you're not interested in having kids at this point and he needs to respect your decision. He doesn't sound like that great of a person if he is pressuring you when you are clearly not ready. I think that's a greater issue here, the fact that he doesn't respect you nor your decisions for your life choices (like getting your MBA) and would rather force you into a decision that you're just not ready to take. Please rethink this situation because if you lie to a doctor who is trying to help you to conceive and you're on some type of birth control already, it's going to be very bad for you, healthwise. You need to think about your own health in this situation. Your boyfriend's opinion doesn't really matter in this situation. It's your body, you have a right to decide when you're ready to have a baby. Don't let him bully you into this!