So first of all, I am looking for replies from people based on their PERSONAL experiences- not I heard this, or I heard that, or a friend of a friend- if you reply, please share your own story with me.
I have been practicing fertility awareness (if you are not familiar with this, please research it before commenting, it is very effective) for over 5 years now with not one single incident of pregnancy and I have confirmed fertility.
I was in a long-term relationship with a wonderful person and as time went on we both knew that we would be comfortable having a child and we became more lax about fertility awareness. We ended up only using withdrawal on my fertile days rather than barrier methods/abstaining. He also came in me very close to my fertile window. So, in short- I was regularly having sex on my fertile days and using the withdrawal method as the only source of 'protection' with a few 'risky releases' within me. I never became pregnant.
I have read conflicting information about pre-*** and whether or not it contains sperm. It seems the general consensus is that it can if the sperm is leftover from a previous ejaculation. I am inclined to believe this as I never became pregnant (and we had a lot of sex but he always made sure to urinate between ejaculations or that he had not recently *** and ALWAYS pulled out on time). I have also had sex with one other individual using withdrawal during my fertile window- no pregnancy.
I am wondering what others have experienced with CORRECT and consistent use of withdrawal. I am looking for aware people, who are knowledgeable about their cycles (fyi if you think you can get pregnant any day, you are WRONG- there are about 5-9 fertile days per month and only a 12-24 hour window where fertilization can occur).
My main question is this: Have you had sex during your fertile window (wet days) using withdrawal as your only source of contraception and what has your experience been?
I know several marriage couples who had sex 'safely' by using your method, for years. But two of the couples, gets their wives have another pregnancy, 8 and 11 years later, measuring from last child's age. Remarkably, the couple that 8 years later had another pregnancy, they mentioned to us that they were never on pill or condom and any kind of contraceptions. Else couple had a mixture but very less contraceptions.
To me, I prefer the safe game, at least a condom. We had two infants right now. You know how heavy is financially to bear and feed a child nowadays, not too mention it's hard to find a good baby-sitter either. Even an abortion is not cheap either, comparing to pill and condom.
Anyway, have you aware of difficulties in having a pregnancy? I think you should consider that factor. Both of you.
I know- people keep telling me "well so and so got pregnant that way" and I'm like okay, I want to know details!!!!! Had the guy recently *** prior to sex, etc etc!!!!
It has worked for me, even during my fertile phase for years now- but I *always* make triple sure that the guy hasn't *** previously and pulls out on time. I am however going to start using spermicide as well on my fertile days, just to have that additional protection.
Anyways-here's to continued success using withdrawal!!!!