Birth Control /Sex Drive
About 18 months I felt as though my sex drive had completely disappeared and thought it may just be a stressful time (I stopped smoking around then), but as time passed and my other half brought up the issue, I wasn't so sure. It obviously made him feel bad, he worried that he'd done something wrong, that we had problems or maybe that I was having an affair.
About 9 months ago I started looking for more information online and found many people complaining of a lack of sex drive while using various forms of the pill/depo, and I read (most of) 'The Pill: Are you sure it's for you?' before deciding to stop taking the pill 6 months ago.
I'm sad to say that my sex drive has not yet returned and I've even started doubting my feeling for my other half recently, figuring that if stopping the pill hadn't helped, then maybe there really is a problem. And this is why I'm still searching the internet for advice and people with similar experiences (I did find a colleague's gf had suffered too, but they never sorted it and have now split (unrelated), which didn't give much hope).
Many forums contain awful negative messages that it must be all the guy's fault, all the girl's fault, that the relationship is doomed... I really hope this isn't the case!
Does anyone have any experience of how long my sex drive might take to return, or anything I can do to clear the hormones from my system quicker / boost free testosterone (I'm not sure if this would be possible/safe to do without the help of a doctor...)?