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    PastorGary's Avatar

    I hate feeling like a nobody

    Don't let anyone make you sad, your worth something hsp1 and don't you ever forget that. Your much better than the one who made you sad that's for sure.
    So cheer up!
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    Posted 08-25-2010 at 12:12 PM by PastorGary PastorGary is offline
  2. Old Comment
    hsp1's Avatar

    Just feeling really down today.

    [QUOTE=Sunsetnan;bt832]hsp1:
    Hope u are feeling better. I can relate to your feelings. I am married now, with children, and I look back at my life when I was single and worried about finding love, and I think, "what a waste of time." I thought that love and marriage would somehow make me happy, but now when I am cooking and cleaning for a houseful, I sometimes wonder if it wasn't easier when I was single. The grass is always greener on the other side, huh? As I look back, I suspect I was depressed, and during PMS it was much worse. Taking an antidepressant (for other reasons) has helped me reflect back and also look at my life with a reasonable mind. If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to spend time on loving myself and being content in my life as it is now. It's something I have to remind myself even now. You are a valuable person, worthy of love. We all are. I should have known that love would eventually find me, and not to waste my time waiting for it and yearning for it. Life is too short.
    Best Wishes,
    Sunsetnan[/QUOTE]
    Thank you so much my friend for your kind words of support. I really appreciate it. ((hugs))
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    Posted 08-25-2010 at 11:03 AM by hsp1 hsp1 is offline
  3. Old Comment
    hsp1's Avatar

    It hurts to be me

    I can relate.

    [QUOTE=friend;bt822][B][SIZE="4"][FONT="Book Antiqua"][COLOR="Magenta"]Hi hsp1,

    I can relate to your fears. I think it's normal for some of us to wonder who is a real friend. Only time tells.

    I used to waste my time wondering if it is real friendship or I got my hopes up for nothing. I think if someone dislikes a person for having ruddy skin or plain looks, she or he was never friend material. That's shallow. But just being busy or not answering for days or weeks doesn't mean anything. She may have lost interest, but don't invite any mean comments by trying to hang onto her. Go about your own life. Get involved in something others share like dog parks or art or sports. Do what you love and you will seem easier to love. Chat about what interests others.

    I once read something like this-

    Some people are in our lives for a reason, some just for a season. some for a while. some for a lifetime.

    It was written much more poetically. As a kid I always felt sure no one liked me or wanted to be my friend. I didn't see what was so wrong about me compared to other little girls. Once I grew up and had more experience in life, I came to see that people are not to be hung onto. even loving mom's get tired of that.

    Now I enjoy people for who they are, as they come and go in and out of my life. I think to be insecure and try to cling to anyone makes us vulnerable to people that are users and don't appreciate us. You are just as good as anyone else. You can change plain looks, if you choose. But I see plain people having friends and spouses. So it's not the looks, it's the attitude.

    Now I have several close friends that come and go in my life. They are busy with work, school, kids, the interests we don't share.

    I don't think it possible to be very close friends online, only. I have several online friends I truly enjoy. but neither their or my life is online. We don't know each other in person, and we respect this limitation, knowing that only live people can be our closest friends.

    It took me awhile as a kid to learn that everyone has insecurity and craves attention. But if I dwell on what I want and need I can't be there for my friend. I had to learn to get interested in other people and to just stop worrying over how long I was going to 'keep' them. No one wants to be 'kept'. But they do want freedom to come and go without guilt and I want it for myself. I am a very busy person and I expect friends to respect it and I respect their space.

    We may not ever get rid of insecurities, but we can learn to not let them control us.
    I hope this encourages you some, sweetie.[/COLOR][/FONT][/SIZE][/B][/QUOTE]
    Thank you so much my dear friend. I wish I read your comment before I posted my new blog entry cause your comment really has helped me to feel better ((hugs))
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    Posted 08-25-2010 at 11:02 AM by hsp1 hsp1 is offline
  4. Old Comment
    Sunsetnan's Avatar

    Just feeling really down today.

    hsp1:
    Hope u are feeling better. I can relate to your feelings. I am married now, with children, and I look back at my life when I was single and worried about finding love, and I think, "what a waste of time." I thought that love and marriage would somehow make me happy, but now when I am cooking and cleaning for a houseful, I sometimes wonder if it wasn't easier when I was single. The grass is always greener on the other side, huh? As I look back, I suspect I was depressed, and during PMS it was much worse. Taking an antidepressant (for other reasons) has helped me reflect back and also look at my life with a reasonable mind. If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to spend time on loving myself and being content in my life as it is now. It's something I have to remind myself even now. You are a valuable person, worthy of love. We all are. I should have known that love would eventually find me, and not to waste my time waiting for it and yearning for it. Life is too short.
    Best Wishes,
    Sunsetnan
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    Posted 08-24-2010 at 10:48 AM by Sunsetnan Sunsetnan is offline
  5. Old Comment
    friendlione's Avatar

    It hurts to be me

    I can relate.

    Hi hsp1,

    I can relate to your fears. I think it's normal for some of us to wonder who is a real friend. Only time tells.

    I used to waste my time wondering if it is real friendship or I got my hopes up for nothing. I think if someone dislikes a person for having ruddy skin or plain looks, she or he was never friend material. That's shallow. But just being busy or not answering for days or weeks doesn't mean anything. She may have lost interest, but don't invite any mean comments by trying to hang onto her. Go about your own life. Get involved in something others share like dog parks or art or sports. Do what you love and you will seem easier to love. Chat about what interests others.

    I once read something like this-

    Some people are in our lives for a reason, some just for a season. some for a while. some for a lifetime.

    It was written much more poetically. As a kid I always felt sure no one liked me or wanted to be my friend. I didn't see what was so wrong about me compared to other little girls. Once I grew up and had more experience in life, I came to see that people are not to be hung onto. even loving mom's get tired of that.

    Now I enjoy people for who they are, as they come and go in and out of my life. I think to be insecure and try to cling to anyone makes us vulnerable to people that are users and don't appreciate us. You are just as good as anyone else. You can change plain looks, if you choose. But I see plain people having friends and spouses. So it's not the looks, it's the attitude.

    Now I have several close friends that come and go in my life. They are busy with work, school, kids, the interests we don't share.

    I don't think it possible to be very close friends online, only. I have several online friends I truly enjoy. but neither their or my life is online. We don't know each other in person, and we respect this limitation, knowing that only live people can be our closest friends.

    It took me awhile as a kid to learn that everyone has insecurity and craves attention. But if I dwell on what I want and need I can't be there for my friend. I had to learn to get interested in other people and to just stop worrying over how long I was going to 'keep' them. No one wants to be 'kept'. But they do want freedom to come and go without guilt and I want it for myself. I am a very busy person and I expect friends to respect it and I respect their space.

    We may not ever get rid of insecurities, but we can learn to not let them control us.
    I hope this encourages you some, sweetie.
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    Posted 08-21-2010 at 12:21 AM by friendlione friendlione is offline
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