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Insulation, hard choices vs. dysfunctional status quo

Posted 03-28-2010 at 06:07 AM by Myofascial Pain

So yesterday I decided that I am going to apply for Disablity SSI. Thing about it is I feel guilty knowing my family has the resources that if they were willing then I wouldn't be taking resources that others who don't have that luxury could use. But I realized they don't have an obligation to do so. So I'm going to do the adult thing and apply for SSI just to have a sense of more independence.

You wouldn't think it but there is such a thing as having too big a heart. After some helpful counseling from my brother, I now realize that "doing the right thing" has often been doing the wrong thing for my best interests. Too many times I have gone the extra mile, trusted too much and ended up getting burned by people taking advantage of my benevolent nature. Ever see the looney tunes where Elmer Fudd changes into a sucker (lollipop)?? That's me.

So I've resolved to be more conscious of situations where I can end up getting burned and insulate myself from people who would take advantage of me. Sad thing is one of those persons is my other brother.

Not to disparage anyone on these boards who have done anything but try and be helpful, but my latest drama was caused in part by trusting in the well intentioned advice provided by others and not researching things further. Here's my story so you can understand what am rambling about here.

So 2 weeks ago I went out to my parents house to "house sit" and extended my house sitting from 7 to 10 days at the bequest of my other brother. Three things happened first I had an adverse reaction to my first Myofasical Release therapy that lasted for 5 days. I later learned that this was a potential occurrence that I could have anticipated had I researched Myofascial Release therapy more throughly. Second mistake was trusting my Myoffascial Release therapist that had 12 years of experience. Her definition of Myofascial Release is not the same as others have elaborated on since my first session. Obviously I'm not going to get the same benefits if I am not getting the same treatment that provided relief for others,. Third mistake, in an efforts to expiate my recovery to my adverse reaction I took the NSAIDs that my doctor had prescribed. This resulted in my Ulcerative Colitis flaring up laying me up for another 2 days. So my week of house sitting turned out to be two weeks which was unacceptable by anyone's conventional definition.

Needless to say I won't be doing anymore house sitting. I've committed to going to my doctor appointments and coming back to my own apartment where if I get layed up again by my next Myofascial Release session, I'll be laid up in my own apartment which won't result in any drama. Along those same lines I've resolved to forgo any sedation for future Basal Branch Blocks and Radio Frequency Ablations. This will eliminate the need for me to have a driver so I will be able to return on my own to my apartment.

All of this is pretty drastic but I am convinced that any additional physical pain I may have to endure will be worth the reduction of emotional distress that comes hand in hand with all the drama.

I have no doubts it will be a painful transition, but in the end I think I will be happier in the long run.

~Myo
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  1. Old Comment
    Hello Myo,

    I just now read your posting. You do sound like a wonderful person indeed.

    Yes I know there is such a thing as having too big a heart. People with big
    hearts are a treasure to know and love. But I understand also the other side
    of that coin as well. I understand also that family dynamics both the good
    and the not so good can be both blessings or hardships.

    Soon I am going to read up on Myofacial Release Therapy so I have a better
    grasp of it. Also Basal Branch Blocks and RFA.

    When people have to consider SSI disability it is a big decison. Gads so
    many variables to that whole arena of things isn't there! My best friend
    and ex spouse is currently seeking SSI also for some existing and anticipated
    declines.

    In the future I would like to read more of your posts to catch up etc.

    Regarding blogging (although I have read the instructions etc) I hope I am
    doing my blogs and comments correctly. If you have any advice or if I
    am using the comment section wrong please let me know.

    I won't bite.....I'll leave that for the dogs in my nieghborhood. *suppossed
    to be a joke*

    Until next time,

    Janaly
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    Posted 04-01-2010 at 05:53 PM by Janaly Janaly is offline
  2. Old Comment
    [QUOTE=Janaly;bt437]Hello Myo,

    I just now read your posting. You do sound like a wonderful person indeed.

    Yes I know there is such a thing as having too big a heart. People with big
    hearts are a treasure to know and love. But I understand also the other side
    of that coin as well. I understand also that family dynamics both the good
    and the not so good can be both blessings or hardships.

    Soon I am going to read up on Myofacial Release Therapy so I have a better
    grasp of it. Also Basal Branch Blocks and RFA.

    When people have to consider SSI disability it is a big decison. Gads so
    many variables to that whole arena of things isn't there! My best friend
    and ex spouse is currently seeking SSI also for some existing and anticipated
    declines.

    In the future I would like to read more of your posts to catch up etc.

    Regarding blogging (although I have read the instructions etc) I hope I am
    doing my blogs and comments correctly. If you have any advice or if I
    am using the comment section wrong please let me know.

    I won't bite.....I'll leave that for the dogs in my nieghborhood. *suppossed
    to be a joke*

    Until next time,

    Janaly[/QUOTE]
    Janaly,

    [I][B]Thank you for commenting!!![/B] [/I]

    I so look forward to feedback to help me impove my blogs. I even posted a big please provide feedback request in my blog description but Seems like no one has noticed it. In my humble opinion, you are using the comment section [B][U]perfectly[/U] as it was intended,[/B]

    *HUG*

    Thank you again,
    ~Myo
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    Posted 04-04-2010 at 10:57 PM by Myofascial Pain Myofascial Pain is offline
  3. Old Comment
    *hug* you are welcome. It has been a joy to
    comment on the blogs!

    thank you for confirming that I am using the comment
    sections correctly...

    I am still trying to understand, guote, quick guote,
    go advanced etc etc. So when time I keep rereading
    the FAQ's and Posting Polices. I am getting the gradual
    hang of things but not completely by any means yet.

    Janaly

    p.s. I can't find the smiles etc so wanted to use one
    now?
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    Posted 04-05-2010 at 07:17 PM by Janaly Janaly is offline
  4. Old Comment
    I just now finished reading up a little about MyoFacial
    Release Therapy! Wow what an avenue!

    Every person unique as would be the therapy. That
    about says it all doesn't it!


    I will read more in the near future again,

    Janaly
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    Posted 04-05-2010 at 07:47 PM by Janaly Janaly is offline
  5. Old Comment
    Hello Myo,

    How are you doing? I've been off the blogs a few days
    and now trying to catch up a little.

    Janaly
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    Posted 04-10-2010 at 01:02 PM by Janaly Janaly is offline
  6. Old Comment
    Hello Myo, great blogs. how old are you?. I really feel your pain and what you're going through. It's not fair what we're going through all of us with this chronic pain. As you know, I've been through one car accident and my life are forever changed.

    Let us know how your what's up with your SSI.
    SEEYA.
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    Posted 04-12-2010 at 02:08 AM by nochange nochange is offline
  7. Old Comment
    [QUOTE=nochange;bt475]Hello Myo, great blogs. how old are you?. I really feel your pain and what you're going through. It's not fair what we're going through all of us with this chronic pain. As you know, I've been through one car accident and my life are forever changed.

    Let us know how your what's up with your SSI.
    SEEYA.[/QUOTE]
    Thanks for the feedback nochange. I'm 40 going on 41 this June.

    I know how one accident can change your life... for me it was an accident, misdiagnosis and the wrong physical therapy and then a second accident. In both auto accidents I was the passenger and it wasn't my driver's fault.

    The most frustrating question I get though is "Why is it you were so severely injured, where as your driver was not?"

    That is something I have no answer for... It could have been the auto accident I had in 2002 when I black out during a major depressive episode... It could be that I have had to work construction and other jobs that required a lot of heavy lifting and other exertions on my back.. It could be something as simple as I was less limber than the driver. Or I was under more stress and so my back was in tension.

    Personally, I feel it is a moot question.. the damage is done and now my focus needs to be on how to get better and not dwell on the past and why I was injured.

    ~Myo
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    Posted 04-12-2010 at 01:47 PM by Myofascial Pain Myofascial Pain is offline
 

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