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Old 12-11-2007, 12:35 PM   #1
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I Survived Sphincteroplasty Part 6

This thread is a continuation of Parts 1-5, for those having had (or are considering having) sphincteroplasty and related surgeries.

 
Old 12-11-2007, 02:17 PM   #2
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Re: I Survived Sphincteroplasty Part 6

Hello.....
I am new to this message board and sure wish i would have found it before I had surgery! To have such support from others is such a great thing. I thought I was the only woman that had these issues. I can relate to so many of you. The accidents, the urgency etc....I also have IBS so sometimes that made it even worse. Got to the point where I would really have to watch my diet, especially when traveling.

When delivering my first child, 27 years ago, I tore into my rectum...pretty bad but they stitched me up the best they could. Over the years and 2 children more....things really started to get worse. I couldn't take it anymore so I asked my Dr what could be done. He referred me to a specialist. She took tests and confirmed that over 50% of my muscles were gone and I didn't have any space between my vagina & rectum. So I scheduled surgery for Sept of this year. Surgery went very well....had no complications what so ever. I went back to work within 1 1/2 weeks. I was very fortunate!
I have had my final checkup and said I could resume to normal activites.

I did want to mention to anyone using the guaze squares......I used the square cotton cosmetic squares instead. I found they were alot more comfortable and cheaper! I was instructed to use a hemmoriod cream along with the cotton squares.

Thank you for all the advice.
Have a great day!!

 
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Old 12-11-2007, 06:02 PM   #3
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MKD, I'm glad you found us! Please stay tuned so you can give advice and support to others (i.e. subscribe to the thread under "Thread Tools"). Gosh, I'm so glad you healed so well and quickly! Your success can give hope. I too was torn many years ago during childbirth and have IBS also. My surgery was in May, and my wound didn't open as others' have. Did you just have the sphincteroplasty, or rectocele repair as well? I'd guess from your post you've at least skimmed parts 4-5 of this thread... there is lots of good info there.

Mary

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Old 01-01-2008, 01:44 PM   #4
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YAY! I am so happy I found you! What a blessing this message board is!

I am having an overlapping sphincteroplasty in 6 weeks. I have 2 toddlers at home and just moved to a new town in which I know no one except my husband. Our family and friends are all a minimum of 2 hours away. I really want to plan this right- and be well educated.

I realize that so many of the women posting had it much worse than I do- all kinds of "plastys"- mine is just the sphincteroplasty, so....

Can anyone tell me:
1. how long you were hospitalized
2. how long you were on prescription pain meds
3. what to watch out for
4. what you wish they told you
5. what you think about my colon-rectal surgeon saying that some people go home the same day

I read through the hundreds of posts on other threads...SO helpful!!!! I was just sometimes unsure as to what to expect with the sphincteroplasty, because as I said, so many women had much more complicated surgeries.

(I realized after my 4th degree tear during childbirth that I didn't have to suffer alone. I found a message board on another site that discussed it, and it really helped me get through some tough times, as you all understand. )

Thank you SO MUCH for anything you share and for taking the time to be on this site!

--JESSICA

 
Old 01-01-2008, 06:07 PM   #5
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Hi everyone! I'm so glad to have found this board. I have read through so many posts.

My name is Lisa. I am 27 and have a 15 month old son. When I gave birth to my son I had 4th degree tearing because my son's head came out but he got stuck and the doctor just went up and grabbed him out. I first found out I had a problem when I couldn't control my first BM after childbirth. I had a scheduled visit with the OB a week later and when I told him he acted as if this was unheard of. Having never been told the severity of my tearing I had to do much research online to confirm this was not normal. Things have gotten alot better since childbirth and I only have leakage now after BM. I have been a single mother since my son was born so this has been extremely hard for me to deal with both emotionally and physically.
I have seen a colorectal surgeon and had many tests done. I was told I need sphicteroplasty.
I have a defect anteriorly. My external anal squeeze pressure is extremely abnormal. I have a 24mm in diameter defect in the internal sphincter with a larger defect with the external sphincter. My rectal wall only measures 6mm thick.
Due to insurance reasons I am scheduled for a consultation with anouther surgeon on January 10 and plan to schedule my surgery for March.

I have read a few posts about bonding issues with one's child. I honestly thought I was alone with feeling like this. I too have at times had a hard time bonding with my son at the beginning. I had alot of guilt about it because I was the only parent there for him yet I was so devastated and almost regretted giving birth. I wasn't able to hold him for a couple months because I couldn't sit (I also broke my tailbone during labor). This has been an emotional roller coaster ride and I just pray that things will get better after I have surgery. The first surgeon I went to told me that if I get the surgery I would not be able to give birth vaginally ever again because the same thing would happen. I have come to terms with this and am definitly taking the advice.

I have been reading all the advice everyone has given and although I am scared to get the surgery I feel this board has encouraged me to make the right decision and that there is hope of feeling "normal" again.

 
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Old 01-02-2008, 11:17 AM   #6
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Happy New Year!!

I had the overlapping sphincteroplasty surgery in September. Overall, I am really glad that I had the surgery. I still have some leakage after a BM....don't like that at all but is better than before. Hopefully as time goes on that will change. I have been doing Kegal exercises and that helps a bit....also helps that wonderful urine leakage that seems to happen. Oh, the joys of being a woman!!

I was in the hospital from Friday to Sunday. I think what hurt the most was that I had packing in my vagina and put pressure on my bottom. Packing was removed the next day. The actual pain from the surgery was alot less than the original tear. I was on pain med's until Saturday morning.....just Tylenol after that as needed. My stomach can't tolerate pain med's or antibotics very well so I ended up with some pretty loose stools the next day.(even with nothing in my system) I sure found out quickly what my new bottom could do....haha.
Like I said in previous post....I was very fortunate not to have any problems with my surgery. What I didn't realize was that when my Dr did the sphicter repair that it would change my bottom so much. I now have a "tween". That does take some getting used too.

Just don't strain too much when having a BM.....don't want to tear those stitches out. My Dr said I would have to relearn to use those muscles. I had to remember to relax and let my body do what it was supposed to do. I stuck with a liquid diet for the first 2 weeks after surgery and then slowly added regular food to my diet. Chicken worked the best and red meat was the worst. Just listen to your Dr and don't be afraid to ask lots of questions before & after surgery. Better to ask than to worry about it.

I do have a question regarding "intimacy". Did you find that the feelings before surgery are alot different after surgery? I am finding out that I have to relearn how things work. I am very fortunate to have a wonderful caring and patient partner that doesn't mind having to relearn these things. But it still can be frustrating at times.

Thanks to everyone!!

 
Old 01-02-2008, 12:21 PM   #7
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Hi everyone,

I started this thread last November, and I am glad that it is still helping so many others at this time. I think my whole life history is in threads 1-6 and also some other threads previous to these. I am regretfully letting you all know that I wish you all the best. I will not be able to check in very much from now on because I am trying to heal my 4 year old daughter that was just diagnosed with crohns disease. I have been doing a lot of research in that area as of lately. I hope everyone continues to recover and heal well. I am officially 1 year post op on January 18th and I am doing great. I fortunately, have absolutely no incontinence issues or smearing at all. I feel blessed to have met such wonderful and supportive people on this thread. I hope in the end, that my story can continue to be a source of strength and encouragement for others having to endure this. Right now, I am turning my focus to my little daughter who is not doing very well at the moment. If there is room on your prayer list--please add her, her name is Grace. Thanks again everyone.

Kelley

 
Old 01-02-2008, 05:24 PM   #8
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Kelley, you have helped so many of us. When I joined in May 2007, two days before my surgery, you and Jen helped me so much... and I've been a lurker and sometimes poster ever since. (Actually, didn't you start this in 2006?). I hope some of the others of the past year will step up and give the women advice and hope now that you and I are doing quite well and might not check in too often. I am so sorry to hear about Grace. I've not heard of Chron's at such an early age. But I know you can do your research and know where to go with this. And you are capable of such love, such caring, I know it will all work out. Certainly I will pray, hope, and send loving thoughts for Grace, you, and your family.

To the other recent posters who are facing surgery, I will reply soon... just wanted to get this {{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}} to Kelley ASAP.
Mary

 
Old 01-03-2008, 05:25 AM   #9
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Thanks Mary

 
Old 01-03-2008, 09:14 AM   #10
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Kelley,
I too want to give you a BIG HUG and also to your little Grace. I know that when you started this thread (why back when) I was the first to respond and have gone through the entire process with you. Having heard your story and going through the same thing, I honestly believe that having you as someone for me to talk to made me go through with this surgery, which I don't know if I would have if I hadn't found this board and you. I had my surgery in September, I am still trying to figure out my fiber intake as well as relearning how to work my bowels, but the surgery was a success and I am a much happier person because of it. It is quite a process, but knowing that I am not alone has helped more than you know. I honestly feel like I know you very well. Thanks for that...

For little Grace, she is on my prayer list and I believe in my heart of hearts you will do whatever is possible to make sure she is just fine. You are in my thoughts and prayers always.
Mindy

 
Old 01-07-2008, 02:28 PM   #11
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Hi everyone, sorry that I've been MIA for the past few months. I've been busy with life and the holidays. I've been able to read some posts to keep up with everyone, but have not posted myself.

First, Kelley, thank you so very much for starting this wonderful board and for the wealth of knowledge, care, and support you have shared with every single person on this board. I know I speak for everyone when I say that you will be tremendously missed. But, more importantly, you need to devote your time and attention to your sweet daughter right now. She (and you) will be in my prayers.

I'm about 5 1/2 months into my recovery and I'm doing fairly well, but still having some issues with pain, scar tissue, and a few "structural" concerns. Sex is still very painful, but my husband is very understanding and patient. An unexpected perk (more for him) is that things are more "snug" since surgery. I'm guessing it's because they built up my perineum so much. Sorry if that is TMI! I go back to my surgeon on Friday, so I will address my concerns with him then. Over all, things are better than before surgery, but just not as great as I would like. Hopefully, time and more healing will improve most things.

Take care everyone and we'll miss you Kelley!

xoxo Elizabeth

 
Old 01-10-2008, 02:12 PM   #12
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I have to agree with everyone .....Thanks Kelley for starting this message board for others. I'm sure there are many others that can benefit from the past responses. I'll be thinking of your daughter too.

Elizabeth.....not too much information. At least not from my point of view. I'm sure all of us have had questions regarding those issues too. I know I have but didn't see much to answer my questions. I agree with you when you say things have "snugged" up. Yep, it is painful sometimes. Let us know how your Dr's appointment goes.

MK

 
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Hi all,
Just found this site tonight and wanted to join in. I'm Susan and I had an overlapping anal sphinteroplasty on Dec 20 2007. So just a few weeks post op. I am still using 4x4s tucked in my rear to catch drainage, and have noticed some BM on them from time to time. Should the repair be effective right away or will it take some time? I have my next follow up on the 16th...so will ask Dr then, but thought i'd bring it up here as well.
I got the damage from a horrible 4th degree tear with the birth of my daughter 5 years ago.
Thanks so much.
Susan

 
Old 01-11-2008, 12:52 PM   #14
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Welcome Susan.....

Isn't it great that there are others out there to talk to with the same problems? I always felt so alone with no one to talk to about this....pretty embarrassing. Couldn't even talk to my spouse or my Mom. So I tried talking to other women but seemed to get negative responses...like what are you talking about? Or you are just going to have to put up with it...a sign of aging you know. Don't feel old! and certainly wasn't ready for diapers! I am glad that you have taken care of this so soon instead of waiting years. So overall, how did your surgery go?

I had the same problem with BM for awhile too....still have a little leakage but alot better than before. I think it will get better with time. Can anyone else help on that question? I am 3 1/2 mths in recovery. Did you try the cotton cosmetic squares yet? I still use them & Tronalane cream on occassion when bottom has been stressed. Lots of baths help too.

Have a great day!!
MK

 
Old 01-11-2008, 06:15 PM   #15
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Hi everyone, I've been really busy and apologize for not posting when I said I would. Some recent questions might be answered toward the end of "Sphincteroplasty Part 4" --- as I recall, several of us posted our "histories" there. I'm 8 moths post op and doing pretty well. Just learned I still have a "pocket" just inside the anus, though; that's the reason for some moist leaking after BM and even tiny bits of stool passing when least expected. But it's not full-on incontinence as before surgery. I'll probably go back to the surgeon when I come up for air and if bowel issues become a priority and start to rule my life again!

Yes, Susan, healing takes quite a long time. Leaking after a BM seems to be the norm in recovery (even without the "pocket"). My surgery-related leaking lasted about 4 months I think. It wasn't much but I did wear a mini-pad. The cotton/gauze bugged me because I had some irritation from an external yeast infection so I didn't use them often.

Don't get constipated! If you think you're susceptible to it, use Miralax or a stool softener. Increased fiber constipated me and it was horrible. For others fiber was a blessing. It's hard to find the right balance. MKD, is Tronalane cream an Rx? And do you apply it externally?

There is still a tender spot at the perineum and intercourse is sometimes painful. I wish I could give more hope. Someone earlier mentioned olive oil, and I like K-Y Silk-E. Messy but far more comfortable. There definitely was a decrease in sensation for several months after surgery as the nerves and muscles "re-learned". And of course, fear of pain makes you tense up. Elizabeth and others, there is never TMI on this board!!! LOL if you can.

Lisa, you have done your homework and I think you saw another surgeon yesterday. Any news? I remember others talking about having more babies after surgery and perhaps you read those posts too.

Jessica, your surgery is coming up - did you get the answers you were seeking? MKD and others had some good info. I was in the hospital 5 days. Took Vicodin as needed for a week or so after (with stool softeners - those meds are constipating!). But DO take advantage of the morphine or other pain meds in the hospital!!! Be sure you don't lie on your back too much at first, turn over carefully, and don't sit directly on your bottom. It will take several months for you to heal completely, so go slow, take lots of warm baths, and get help at home for a month or so. You might not need it, but it's best to be prepared. You say you're just having the sphincteroplasty, but I'll bet there will be a perineum repair also as part of that, with some external stitches. Ask your Dr.

Mindy, glad to see you're still here... I know you have been through parts 1-2-3-4-5 and now 6... were you glad you waited 'till your boys were in school to have the surgery?

OK, this was long, and I'll probably not post for a while... lots of life stuff going on, and going on with life now that my surgery is ancient history. I wish you all the best, and please keep in touch with each other for support and hugs and prayers and whatever works. I know this board has been a blessing for me so keep it going!

Mary

 
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