kennyboy

You seem to be eating the right things and drinking lots of water too so I can only guess that your stools are bulking up and hardening because the water you are drinking is being used by your body in general maintenance and is not doing the stool softening job you want it to. Perhaps it's because you are not taking fiber (you don't mention it). Fiber is important because it acts like a sponge in your gut and keeps everything moist. I had the same problem as you and kept drinking more and more water until I was leaking like a watering can every ten minutes. It did the job to a degree but I came to the conclusion that drinking so much water was not a practical option when you are out or at work. So I decided to try and create an emulsion in my gut rather than a wet sponge (if you get my drift). I did this by taking olive oil with my food as well as the water which I was able to cut down a bit and stop the constant need to be near a loo. It worked a treat and I very rarely have problems now. You need to sort it out because you could tear your sphincter muscle and create an anal fissure which is very painful and hard to treat successfully.
One thing I have learnt from reading about bowel problems is that everybody is different and what works for one person doesn't for another. You have to become an bowel 'artist' (ha ha) and treat yourself like a blank canvas or a rough rock and paint or chisel your own 'work of art'. It's not easy and you may need to become a 'colon Michelangelo' or a 'sphincter Leonardo da Vinci'. Having said that I might enter my arse for the tuner prize next year, they go for that sort of thing.