| Hemorrhoidectomy
Let me start off by saying that I feel hopeless, depressed, anxious, and horrible. About 4 years ago I began having stomach spasms (I'm 22 now)-- really intense, painful spasms. Everything would go through me, I constantly had to run to the bathroom. My parents just thought it was stress, and I guess so did I. They went away after about a year (around the middle of my freshman year of college when things kinda settled). I did notice, however, that all of the bowel movements I was having caused a hemorrhoidal problem. I mean, it was annoying, but nothing too painful, just kinda came out after every BM, and that was it. Spasms were gone, normal BMs again: I didn't think too much of it.
Let's fast forward to 4 months ago. I notice the hemorrhoids getting worse. They became SO painful that going to the bathroom became a production. I was in excruciating pain every single time (I would literally have to bite on a towel to get through them). They popped out for really no reason too. I could be walking in the mall and bam, my hemorrhoids would come out. I bleed like crazy when I go, it takes me almost 10 hours after going to the bathroom to recover, and my mental health is starting to suffer. I always feel uncomfortable and pained. I just want to be normal, ya know?
So I went to a colon/rectal surgeon because I just couldn't live like this anymore. She examined me and then sent me in for a colonoscopy. Turns out I had Crohn's-- which is what explains the spasms four years ago. It's a mild case, but still enough to cause the horrendous 'roids I have now (WHICH ARE STAGE 3, BY THE WAY). She suggested a Hemorrhoidectomy, and I was fine with this until yesterday.
I am scheduled for surgery tomorrow and for some reason (last night) I decided to search the internet for this procedure. The results were shocking. NO ONE seemed happy with the outcome. I saw everything from "MORE PAINFUL THAN CHILDBIRTH" to "LOST CONTROL OF BOWELS/HAVE FISSURES/REGRET HAVING IT." I just cried and cried. I am only 22 and I feel trapped in a 70 year-old's body. The results really got my mind going, so I called the surgeon up today for some answers... and OH MY GOD.
She told me basically the surgery was a "shot in the dark"... she also told me that hemorrhoids don't usually hurt. She couldn't give me any real answers... especially when I asked if my quality of life would improve afterward (to me any surgery and pain would then be worth it!). She basically then told me to cancel it (I asked if she had any success stories and she couldn't really tell me). I was shocked. I mean, I didn't feel confident, but it left me wondering, "WHAT NOW?!" She told me that perhaps my Crohn's medicine could make it better (i'm due to see the specialist for that soon). Yes, but what about the bulge? And what about the pain? I don't seem to understand this reasoning... the meds won't exactly get rid of the hemorrhoids, and if I'm at STAGE 3, what options are really left?
I want comfort and relief. I want a normal life. Why can't anyone seem to answer my questions? Why is this such a vague thing if so many people suffer from it? I am in so much pain and I just want answers and solutions. I may not be able to live like this for much longer. Does anyone have similar stories? or advice?
PS, the colon surgeon comes from a VERY good hospital and is one of the best in the field, so it's not like I don't trust her, but I feel like I will never be able to get my life back.
I need so much help.
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