every time I have to take a poop, its a battle. Its so big sometimes that I end up having to pick it apart to get it to pass. its like hard clay. I end up tearing my butt every time i go. how can i stop this cycle?
Eat plenty of juicy fruits like watermelon, cantaloupe, plums, peaches, pears, etc. If you can't get fresh fruit often try eating a big bowl of apple sauce everyday, or maybe oatmeal with raisins. Drink plenty of water.
For more immediate relief use some stool softener (make sure it says "stimulant free" or else you may get cramping).