No, you most certainly aren't alone. Millions of americans have hemorrhoids and most never do anything about it, they simply cope or buy hemorrhoid creams and try to add fiber into their diet, exercise and drink lots of water. It works, but depends on how much you can deal with them. They're actually damaged veins that run to the anus, and they won't ever "heal" on their own.
I tried to cope with mine at first too, and my external one went away in a few weeks the first time. It's called "resolving" when it goes down, but they never really go away and have a tendency to reappear. I used a hemorrhoid ointment that was mostly medicated vaseline, and a donut shaped pillow for when i sat down. Exercise and eating lots of salads probably helped too haha.
Mine came back a second time, so that's when I decided to go get it taken care of. I'm actually 8 days post-op, had a hemorrhoidectomy. Some people try rubber-band litigation or staples, but those can fail, so I decided not to have a few painful procedures done before I get the most painful one done. But at least it's a permanent solution.
I would say go to your doc, or a doc you feel comfortable with and get it checked out, it wouldn't hurt. There are quite a few options that can be permanent for a lot of people. It's only an urgent situation if you're bleeding profusely, but yes most hemorrhoids do bleed. Most women lose more blood on their periods than they do with hemorrhoids.