Re: caregiver of diabetic with head injury
Hi rana20........... Oh does my heart go out to you. What a strong , wonderful person you are. Different relationships but similar stories. My husband's parents passed away a week apart from each other. For the last year of their lives they both needed care. he had cancer, she had diabetes with all of the complications to go with it. I loved both of them very much. My father-in-law was the easiest person to take care of. very willing and appreciative of anything that was done for him. My Mother-inlaw , God rest her, became was nasty at times. Also a bad diabetic who ate whateve, whenever, and gave herself insuling shots whether she needed them or not. Can't blame that on her, no one ever told her if her reading was under a certain # she didn't need her shot. Once she was educated it was too late. At times my husband would go give them both dinner. One night he could take no more of his mother's attitude. yelled at him, yelled at the dying father. My husband lost it and blasted her that there were so many people trying to be good to her and help and she was being nasty to all. He left and came home and cried that he had talked to his dying mother like that. She called me about 2 hours later and told me she got up, took a walk around the house and could I find someone to come over and do her hair and to please tell her son that she loved him and to thank him for waking her up. Sometimes the caregiver has to practice tough love to get through. When people are this ill they tend to get angry at whoever is taking care of them. Not fair but true. Maybe you need to make some rules and adhere to them. Tell him you will make the right foods for him to control his diabetes but he has to eat them because you cannot take the convulsions, the dips in the glucose readings. He has to give it his best shot too. Just my opinion. Best of luck.