Finance Suffers from Amnesia due to Brain Injury- Need Help
About 20 days ago my finance was hit across the head with a pole. He is suffering from amnesia (what I believe is retrograde amnesia). He can't remember the past 8 years of his life, meaning he doesn't remember dating me, proposing to me or being in love with me.
After his injury the hospital said he is just confused and to give him a few days. He still does not remember anything between 2003 and now.... He thinks he is 21. The sad thing is since he doesn't really know me he won't let me help him. He doesn't want to see a specialist or psych or get any sort of help. When I ask to take him he thinks I am pressuring him... But, wouldn't you want to know your past??
He was back to work 2 days after, started going to the gym, and has now planned a 3 week vacation to visit relatives out of town. Will his memories come back?? We obviously had to post-pone the wedding because he doesn't remember me, he asked for the ring back but I kept it. I'v been trying to just be his friend right now. Any chance I get to see him I take it. I feel like a stalker because I am so used to calling him all hours of the day, and seeing him all the time.
Some of my friends have suggested that I try and get him to fall in love with me again, but, I have no idea how? He feels like a 21 yr old who isn't ready for marriage...
I know he is the one that suffered the injury, but he is just moving forward, doesn't want to seek medical attention- he is just moving on without me......
Where does that leave me? I just really want him back, I want things to go back to normal.
His parents and siblings aren't taking his condition seriously because it doesn't effect them. He remembers them and just acts normally, pretends nothing is wrong. I'm pretty much on the outside, his parents and sisters won't team up with me to get him help.
This entire situation is so frustrating... Any thoughts? comments? suggestions?