I really need help with my Moms injury. The doctors say its no hope and that she'll be in a vegative state for the rest of her life. I just need some help n dealing with this. I also just hope i'm making the right decision in keeping her alive! Please help me!!!!
The following user gives a hug of support to MarkyMadison: ToniErasmus (07-28-2011)
Hi, I can relate to the feelings you are experiencing - my husband contracted celebral malaria in December 2011 (from a business trip to the congo) and as a result is in a vegative state, with a trach - my family (myself and two loving children) care for him at home with the assistance of 24 hour caregivers (who are a God send) - when I was initially told that he would never be the same again and the doctors have no hope of him "coming back", my reaction was "Where there is life, there is hope" - my personal feeling is that the brain is very complicated and I do not believe that the doctors, specialists, etc fully understand the workings and they advise on what they understand - always giving "bad" news, incase the worst happens. It will seem hard in the beginning and like there is not hope - but keep strong and let God guide you - he will do what is right and enjoy the time you have with your loved one - miracles happen when you are not looking or least expect them.
My husband has been at home with us now for going on three months, and we talk to him, believing he can hear, put him in a wheel chair for muscle stimualtion and take him outside to enjoy the sun. What I can tell you is that when he was in hospital and the step down facility, they said he did not react to pain or sound and was near anorexic , and after having him at home and caring as if he is fully aware, he does respond to pain, facial expressions when the kids are loud or slam doors and when I kiss him goodbye every morning, he stretches and is now "fatter" than before the nightmare began.
Hi - was just wondering how things are going with you and your mom, is she in a facility? - hope you are feeling more positive about the bad situation. Enjoy the time you have with your mom and remember the good times.
"Where there is life, there is Faith, Hope, Peace and Love.. Toni