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charlie3 11-24-2012 06:40 PM

important, need to know what to do!
 
basically over nearly 3 years ive been thinking that i have brain tumour, but i have never done anything about it. sometimes i have gone all dizzy and fell over but i can feel when its going to happen because i start going blind and i panic because i cant see anything, also about 80% of a month i have headaches, when i cough it feels like the back of my head is about to explode ( sounds dramatic) but im being serious, i sometimes go numb like pins an needles of such and im not in a position to get them, i do get neck pain, my attitude has totally changed i now have nothing to do with my family an to be quite honest the real reason i havnt gone doctors yet is because if im going to die i dont want to know about it or if i find out i do have it what would i tell my daughter. please tell me what you think of this! xx

charlie3 11-24-2012 06:45 PM

Re: important, need to know what to do!
 
oh and also if i go to pick something up i get loads of pressure feeling in the back of my head an a gland in my neck x

hillbilli 11-26-2012 10:52 AM

Re: important, need to know what to do!
 
Why do you assume that if you have a brain tumor you are going to die? Many people have brain tumors that are benign, but even benign ones can cause tons of symptoms.

If you didn't have kids, I'd say it's your own business if you want to stick your head in the sand and likely miss out on your chance to cure this (if it is brain cancer). But since you have a daughter, you should be thinking more about her and how this would effect her.

Even if your daughter is little, what do you think she would say if you told her all this? Would she want you to fight? I'm betting the answer is yes. She has a right to have you on this earth as long as possible. Can you imagine someone having to tell her that you are dying? Because that would be what would happen. With a brain tumor, you won't be able to just hide away and pretend it isn't there. You will eventually lose it, and someone will have you put in the hospital until you die. People with brain tumors become extremely belligerent and even violent towards the end, and they don't even know it.

At the very least, your daughter deserves closure and a chance to say goodbye. If you do have a terminal illness, it will be very hard but you will have to tell your daughter. I have known people who had a parent with a terminal illness, where the parent hid it from the child. Even into adulthood, that child hurt so much not just from losing his mother, but from not having the chance to say goodbye to her. All of this is very painful, but hiding it so you don't have to *see* your daughter's pain is not really an option.

You gonna have to cowboy (or cowgirl) up. And if you are facing the end, remember what Dr. Seuss said: "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."

hillbilli 11-26-2012 11:33 AM

Re: important, need to know what to do!
 
Why do you assume that if you have a brain tumor you are going to die? Many people have brain tumors that are benign, but even benign ones can cause tons of symptoms.

If you didn't have kids, I'd say it's your own business if you want to stick your head in the sand and likely miss out on your chance to cure this (if it is brain cancer). But since you have a daughter, you should be thinking more about her and how this would effect her.

Even if your daughter is little, what do you think she would say if you told her all this? Would she want you to fight? I'm betting the answer is yes. She has a right to have you on this earth as long as possible. Can you imagine someone having to tell her that you are dying? Because that would be what would happen. With a brain tumor, you won't be able to just hide away and pretend it isn't there. You will eventually lose it, and someone will have you put in the hospital until you die. People with brain tumors become extremely belligerent and even violent towards the end, and they don't even know it.

At the very least, your daughter deserves closure and a chance to say goodbye. If you do have a terminal illness, it will be very hard but you will have to tell your daughter. I have known people who had a parent with a terminal illness, where the parent hid it from the child. Even into adulthood, that child hurt so much not just from losing his mother, but from not having the chance to say goodbye to her. All of this is very painful, but hiding it so you don't have to *see* your daughter's pain is not really an option.

You gonna have to cowboy (or cowgirl) up. And if you are facing the end, remember what Dr. Seuss said: "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."

starlight294 03-19-2015 02:54 PM

Re: important, need to know what to do!
 
Looking for help and reassurance here, I have been having balance problems for some time, It starts with a strange feeling in the side of the jaw like my ear has lost equilibrium and then I walk like I am going to fall .I feel this quick fall to the side sensation and I jerk myself back, other times I sit on the floor real quick until the feeling goes away, The last 10 days I have been having these feelings everyday all day. I went to three Doctors in 2 days I was petrified, One Doctor said I had a ruptured ear drum on one side and fluid on the other ear, the other Doctor said I had no fluid in one ear and a slight swelling in the other. The third Doctor said my ears were clear. Now today I feel like I may have an abscess in the jaw or Eustachian tubes as it is stinging slightly under the ear. I am so scared My tonsil does feel sore(right one) and I do get tonsils stones
Even sitting here I get a rocking off balance sensation .What could this be
Anyone else experience this
I did have a strange thing happen the night before I went to the second Doctor, I was panicking and pacing lifted my head up and this strange bitter taste came flowing from the back of my nose into my throat and for a little while my balance improved. Could the fluid in my ear have drained out the back of my nose, That would explain why the second Doctor did not see fluid in the ear canal. I am deaf or frequency deafness although I have not been tested in years >the Doctor has made me an appointment to have a hearing test, I did have a throat virus that took my voice away about 5 weeks ago could this be related, my jaw is hurting and I am scared
Regards Helen"

starlight294 03-19-2015 03:20 PM

Re: important, need to know what to do!
 
a bit cruel I think. Maybe learn a lesson in empathy and an understanding in fear,Adding shame to someone who is frightened is no way to help.


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