Orgasms and breast feeding - Breastfeeding Message Board

2ndtimeround · 09-17-2005, 07:17 AM

Hi
I breast fed both my daughters and loved it....a lot. Most women say they enjoy it and makes them feel good. So I always thought it was normal for women to ....hummmm....feel all warm and tingly and even get turned on by it. I actually had orgasms while breast feeding. I felt great!
Now I am feeling like a freak. Someone told me getting turned on, especially to the point of orgasm is sic.
I can't explain it...it is not that I had sex on my mind...and breast feeding did not feel sexual...it just felt so good it turned me on I guess.
How normal is this?
J

sparkleflower · 09-17-2005, 08:02 AM

I've never breastfed (never given birth), so I'm not speaking from experience. However, I've heard MANY, MANY women say they felt the same as you. I just think fewer women admit feeling good/having orgasms from breastfeeding, because there's a weird phobia about this kind of thing. Look at your friend's response. Chances are if she breastfed, she had similar feelings, but either repressed them or feels guilty about them. You are most definitely NOT sick or anything else. You're perfectly normal :-)

rainy_daze · 09-18-2005, 08:31 AM

I have also never had children or breast fed. But I have heard this happening to a lot of women. So you're not alone and you're certainly not abnormal!

I imagine this experience is different for all women so maybe you're friend didn't experience this. However, she was probably irked that you would get turned on with your little one and interpreted it badly.

AVC · 09-18-2005, 03:27 PM

I have a four year old daughter, and when I was pregnant I read that breast feeding could cause orgasms, and that a lot of women felt guilty about it. I think it was because of that, and because things ended badly with her father who I, erm, associated with my nipples!, that I didn't want to try it. In the end I did do it, for the first few days, but it hurt like hell. Perhaps if I'd persevered it would have got better....I guess my point is, good on you for continuing to do it even though it may have weirded you out. I don't think you need to worry about it; it was purely a physical thing that stimulated your nipples. Lots of things could have done it. And besides, what's done is done. Just don't talk about it with your friends if you don't want to; you don't have to justify yourself.

lex jude · 09-18-2005, 06:29 PM

Breast feeding is a beautiful bond between mother and child and as comforting as it is for you baby, it shoudl be as pleasureable for you as well. It isn't a sexal thing you are feeling, but your body simply responding to the closeness between you and your child.

Please do not let anyone make you feel guilty for this bond being shared with your child. It is them who has the problem and the issues...and perhaps they are the one who should be evaluating themselves, not you.