Originally Posted by PaulaRoet
I know the breastmilk didn't fill her up. She was feeding every hour in the day time.
Breast milk digests very quickly. It's normal in the early weeks for a baby to eat as often as every 1 hour. My DD, now 15 weeks old, still eats every hour and a half, sometimes every 2 and half hours if I'm lucky. If your baby is having enough wet diapers and seems content after a feeding, even if only for an hour, then she is probably doing just fine. Also remember to count from the start of the last feeding, not the end. I know it seems like they just ate when they're at the breast for 45 minutes, but most of the "nutritive" sucking is done at the beginning. It does get better!
My DD also has reflux, and it took about 2 weeks for her medication to really help let her get a good nights sleep. We found that elevating her bassinet at the head helped too.
As for breastfeeding, it has many proven benefits over formula feeding. As a BF advocate I find it hard to really speak out abut the benefits because I understand that FF can be a sensitive choice, and one that many mothers can end up making due to health problems, so I don't want anyone to feel bad for providing nourishment for their babies. I would be happy to share some of the info that I know, but I would want it to be consensual by everyone, because I certainly wouldn't do it with the intention of putting down any moms who formula feed.
I formula fed and breastfed from weeks 5-14, where finally, after weeks of working my butt of to regain my supply, I was able to go back to exclusively breastfeeding. While formula provides a suitable replacement in the event it is needed (and we did need it), I also feel strongly that breastfeeding should always come first.
But I totally understand the need to use formula (I've been there myself), because health problems do arise and sometimes circumstances can't be avoided. In your case I think that sleep is just as important to your baby's development as breast milk is. If it were me I would exhaust every option possible to maintain my BF relationship, and if that's not possible, I would pump and dump while I figured out what to do. Have you spoke to a lactation consultant about a different drug that might not have the same side effects?
Also keep in mind that it doesn't have to be all or nothing. ANY breast milk is better then none, so even if you baby only gets one nursing session or bottle of expressed breast milk a day, then it's still better then nothing.