Originally Posted by Auntie's Niece
I don't know what to expect. My 90 year old aunt has colon cancer with liver mets. She underwent colon surgery last summer but it came back and has spread. They think it may also be in her lungs. She has had three chemo (5FU w/ Leucovorin and Evastin) treatments. But these treatments are making her REALLY REALLY confused along with the typical chemo reactions.
She lives by herself but was staying with me until last week. Shortly after a chemo treatment - she was really loopy and her primary care Doc told me to take her to the ER. She was in the hospital for 3 days and is now at a nursing home/rehab facility. They want to try to "rehab" her and get her home. I cannot take care of her at my house because I own a company and am never at home in order to give her the care she needs.
I guess my question is - Should she go home? She has stge IV colon cancer and I think that all these moves are just going to make it worse. I would like to see her become a "long term" resident instead of a rehab patient. At least I will know then that she is being taken care of. What happens next? She feels okay besides the chemo reactions but she has decided to discontinue her treatments.
Does anyone have any advise - should I try to get her home where she'll be alone? I just don't know.
Im not a doctor, and have no basis to agree with you other than to say I absolutely do. I think for someone that age battling a disease no good can come of constantly changing their environment, moving them here and there and such. I would see about this possibility for her, I cant imagine shes comfortable with all of this moving around.
At 90, she has probably lived longer than 80 percent of us on this board are going to (hell Im praying I just make it to 75 right now!), whether afflicted with illness or not! I would say at this point, if I were her, I would just want serenity and peace wherever it may be, I wouldnt want to be tossed from place to place.
Nonetheless, wherever she goes she needs to have someone close by to take care of her, be it as a resident or family, no one wants to be alone even if they dont tell you or show it.