Mazrose, I feel for you and understand why you can't wait till November.....I hope all goes really well with your reversal and I bet you can't wait to be able to wear tops that are not loose fitting (roll on November yahhh)
Hubby has had his bag since April and he was fine with it as he has always been comfortable with his body image, it's only since the prolapse issue that he is starting to feel a little self conscious as previously no one could tell with a normal t shirt whether he had a bag or not, but as the prolapse is quite large it is much more difficult to conceal.
His colorectal surgeon and oncologist both agree that it is more important for him to continue with his chemo regime (as his first line treatment was not as successful as they had hoped) and in the meantime his stoma nurse has arranged for an abdominal support for him (thanks for the tip westcoastgirl)and when he has completed this round of chemo the surgeon will revisit the possibility of surgery for his hernia.
Cancer Dad, thanks for the suggestion and your wife sounds very supportive.
Hubby has always been sexy to me and always will be with or without his bag (and always reminds me of how spunky he is lol), so that side of his self consciousness is not an issue, it's more that he says he looks like he has borrowed his clothes from Demis Rousos, (thank god he still has his sense of humor).
Thanks to you all as always for your suggestions and advise, it's invaluable to us both.