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Old 07-26-2011, 11:26 AM   #1
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How do I reconnect with my 40 year old son who has been given 2 to8 months to live with stage 4 colon cancer and has aleady under gone a colostomy. we have not seen each other since 12/5/2006 for my 25 year old who died?

 
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How do I reconnect with my 40 year old son who has been given 2 to8 months to live with stage 4 colon cancer and has aleady under gone a colostomy. we have not seen each other since 12/5/2006 for my 25 year old who died?
This must be so hard for you and I can understand your wish to reconnect. You do not say why the two of you have not met for so many years but there is obviously someone who keeps you updated, and that is how you have found out about your son's illness. Would that person act as a mediator between the two of you? Let that person know how anxious you are to see your son so they can pass on the message to your son. Maybe write your son a letter, letting him know how you feel and how much you want to see him? There are survivors of stage 4 colon cancer, so I am wondering if your son has explored all options. I hope you are able to reconnect.
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Old 07-29-2011, 01:28 PM   #3
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thankyou for responding. Ihave thought of sending a letter. The person who informed me of this news ,is my 38 year old who is very angry withme and was raging drunk at the time of his call late at night. I do not know how to respond. I called my 38 year old in the morning and of course, he did not pick up his cell phone. I left him a heart warm and sincere message. I told him to surround himself with those that he was close to, and that I understood why he needed to vent on me, which I still have trouble with, but take it, if I feel it will haelp my sons

 
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Maybe a letter then would be the best way. I suppose in life, we can only do so much to reconnect with those we love. If they do not want to, we can only make sure they know they are loved. It sounds like you are in great pain and I do hope the situation resolves, though, without knowing details, it appears that the disconnect with both sons has gone on for some time.
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you are so right and that is all I can do. I am going to sit down tommorrow and compose the most important letter of my life and hope that he reads it in its entirety. Ithank you so much for your kindness and response. Take care, and I will update on at another time.

 
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