Re: colon cancer
Maybe a letter then would be the best way. I suppose in life, we can only do so much to reconnect with those we love. If they do not want to, we can only make sure they know they are loved. It sounds like you are in great pain and I do hope the situation resolves, though, without knowing details, it appears that the disconnect with both sons has gone on for some time.
Husband dx July 2003, advanced rectal cancer stage 111C; myself dx July 2006 indolent lymphoma; husband dx February 2010, stage 2 prostate cancer.